Can personality change your looks?

[Juan_Man]

Do you believe that a personality can make someone uglier or better looking or do you think that looks and personality are two separate spheres? Or do you believe the opposite that looks change way you look at someone's personality?

 

[Captain Anonymous]

A good personality can definately make somebody more attractive, but not better looking.

 

[Juan_Man]

Originally posted by Captain Anonymous
A good personality can definately make somebody more attractive, but not better looking.

I use to think that but now I believe that personality can change your physical appearance. If a guy has a good personality, then women may start to focus on his positive physical attributes (i.e. nice eyes, smile, etc.) and less on the negative ones (i.e. height), leaving the perception that the guy is goodlooking. But again, this is just a theory.

 

[becker]

This girl I know told me once that her BF is "ok" looking, not that good looking, and she has been with him for like 4 years. I think that having personality makes a girl overlook physical qualities, but doesn't make you more physically attractive (how can it?)

I know what you mean though, about making girls focus on your better qualities. That's also a possibility, but it seems that again, it's more about overlooking rather than anything actually changing physically.

 

[Ronin I]

Originally posted by Juan_Man
Do you believe that a personality can make someone uglier or better looking....

Or do you believe the opposite that looks change way you look at someone's personality?

I think you can answer yes to both of these.

Yes..the right kind of personality can make a person more attractive (better looking) or less attractive (uglier) --(see D.D. and how to build attraction).

BUT I also think that people tend to prejudge other people on the basis of their looks and make assumptions about a person's personality based on their physical appearance. (all kinds of biases and stereotypes can warp a person's perspective).

 

[Ronin I]

Originally posted by Juan_Man
I use to think that but now I believe that personality can change your physical appearance. If a guy has a good personality, then women may start to focus on his positive physical attributes (i.e. nice eyes, smile, etc.) and less on the negative ones (i.e. height), leaving the perception that the guy is goodlooking. But again, this is just a theory.

This is very true - the old saying "love is blind".

I know from personal experience that the more I grow to like a girl the less I notice her physical flaws.

I think it's some sort of cognitive dissonance. We all do it - mostly with regard to ourselves though.

Think about it - we are all quite aware of our own physical flaws (moreso than anyone else is) but while we may acknowledge them as existing (I'm a little overweight, receding hairline, etc) we usually try to consciuosly play down their importance in an attempt to maintain a healthy ego.

I would argue that we do the same thing to members of the opposite sex that we like- either consciously or subconsciuosly "ignore" or "play-down the significance of" their physical imperfections.

 

[becker]

That's what I was saying, the physical flaws will still be there, whether you ignore them or not. If you ignore them, though, I guess it will make that person seem more attractive. Makes sense.

I have also known many girls who were not perfect, but after you talk to them for a while and get to know them better, they become more and more attractive. However, I have also found that these people are usually perceived by the general public as attractive anyways, and not particularly bad looking in the first place, it's just that you might have had some biases before (ex. a girl has a small chest or something, and you're a breast man, or you weren't into a certain race, etc.) and after you got to know the person better, the biases sort of got put on the backburner.

I remember a friend of my ex-GF who was into me, and she was better looking than my GF, but I didn't think she was at first. She was pretty popular among the guys, but she never did it for me. Anyways, needless to say that later I was kicking myself for not going after this girl instead of my ex-GF.

Knowing this, we should all take advantage of it and work this concept to our favor. Find your best qualities and try to keep them in mind when trying to meet women.

 

[BigDave]

yes

its all about your self image and how healthy and good looking you think you are. If you believe that you are of poor health and you believe that you are naturally ugly or something, your body will respond (the mind is very powerful) and you will deteriorate. This makes you look worse. If however you believe that you are very healthy and are naturally good looking you will smile more, enjoy life more, look after yourself more, bother with clothes and food etc, and you will also not age as much as if you believe you are unhealthy and depressed.

 

[SamePendo]

I vomit on a (HB) that has no personality or a disgusting personality.
Unless im really really horny

 

[tiburon]

BEUATY

ALL I HAVE TO SAY IS:

"Beauty is on the eye of the beholder!"


Tiburon

 

[Oxide]

yes. I always notice this. You look at a hot girl, you think she's worth your time so you go over and talk to her. After couple of minutes with her you realize that she is a) A keeper or b) Is much less attractive now that you know her better.

 

[Starman]

men are more visual than women..

women tend to get turned on by a mans personality..and then judge him on a whole..rather than just his looks

I have a little larger nose than I would like..but most girls Ive been with say they "love my nose" and that it gives me "character"

heh I even had one girl tell me guys with small noses have small d1cks

I saw a HB9 yesterday..went over and talked to her..turns out she was stoned..and kept talking reeaaallllllly sllooowww

and everytime she laughed at my joke it was like a beavis /butthead laugh "huuuhhh huhh hueh eh huuhh"

I was like WTF??? Her rating dropped to a 3 after that

 

[Oxide]

i told u bro! some people believe that big nose = big ****. to each his own, but i like my big feet

 

[Ronin I]

Originally posted by Starman
men are more visual than women..

women tend to get turned on by a mans personality..and then judge him on a whole..rather than just his looks

I have a little larger nose than I would like..but most girls Ive been with say they "love my nose" and that it gives me "character"

heh I even had one girl tell me guys with small noses have small d1cks

I saw a HB9 yesterday..went over and talked to her..turns out she was stoned..and kept talking reeaaallllllly sllooowww

and everytime she laughed at my joke it was like a beavis /butthead laugh "huuuhhh huhh hueh eh huuhh"

I was like WTF??? Her rating dropped to a 3 after that

My brother.

Starman it's a shame that I don't know you in real life. I used to have a big schnoz - but I had a nose job - and feel much better about myself because of it.

 

[Ronin I]

Unfortunately my big schnoz = regulation size penis, but I'm happy nonetheless.

 

[Starman]

my nose is actually broken..its not GROSSLY large..and Ive thought about getting a nose job when I was in my teens/early 20's

my family used to even make fun of me..

Then I stopped hangin around negative, shallow people..and since Ive never had any problem getting women..I would let my insecurity about my nose leak to some women I met..and they actually gave me positive responses!


that was refreshing and completely made me do a 180 about obsessing over somehting like a Nose (I even pick it in public now)

Im in my 30's now..the cool thing about being in your 30's is that You really dont care about little flaws in your face/body..as much as you did when you were growing up and trying to "fit in"

 

[Player_Supreme]

Back when I was a young pup I was a dork. Since I've grown and changed my personality to adopt a cool air about me

http://sac.napkinnights.com/pics/view_image.php?id=1225&ind=4

I carry myself different. I even tilt my head without even thinking about it. Women see me as way different....as per a recent 25 year high school reunion person said.

At 44 I've learned how to have a pimp-tight attitude and the aura carries over into my look and style.

 

[bp1974]

Your personality, your attitudes are all reflected in your appearance. How you hold your head, your shoulders, the look on your face, are all a product of your body build and how you've learnt to hold yourself (product of personality). So yes, your personality definitely affects how you are seen by people, which is the same as saying it affects your appearance.

bp1974

 

[becker]

I agree that it affects your appearance, but I think that it does nothing for physical appearance except possibly mask any imperfections you might have by putting the focus on your personality, charisma, etc. After a while, the girl may just get used to your personality and start looking at your physical appearance, so it's still important.

I remember an old GF was not that into me when we first started seeing each other (I was a total ****y bastard, and she didn't like it, but went out with me anyways, go figure). It was probably like a few weeks into the relationship when she told me "you know, you're a good looking guy", out of nowhere.

 

[Survivor]

As proven by the poll results, looks and personality are one and the same.

Your personality is your looks.

Your looks are your personality.