"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Can not replying antagonize her? dont want to play games.

drift king

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the HB i have been seeing who isn't interested any more i got into an argument with the other day on the phone, she's got a lot of stuff going on, her mom is in hospital with cancer, her close friend is in intensive care, she's looking to change jobs, lot's of other factors not related to me and the last thing she needs is a convo about 'us' when we've only been dating a few times.

she's basically not interested anymore and me acting needy isn't going to help, however her ex-bf is exactly like me, looks etc and she didn't like him at first but after his persistent she eventually fell in love with him, tho that ended for different reasons. but it appears she is open to the idea of seeing me even though she does not have feelings as she fell in love with her ex so trusts her past just as much as her feelings.

i hand delivered her favorite flower last night to her apartment door, she was annoyed at first wondering why i've come there (She knows im impatient)

after a while though she starts to smile and we kiss goodbye cos i was in a rush to leave (good way to show i was not as needy as she thought, though i am)

anyway she texted me today: hi, thank you for the flowers though im not sure why you got tme for me. have a nice weekend. talk soon.

should i bother replying to this?

she knows what i'm like already, im impatient i reply quite swiftly to texts, either immediately or within the hour unless it's late at night. if i wait till tomorrow she'll know i'm playing games.. she'll suss me out.

is the anxiety she may feel of me not replying like i normally would like to result in any bearing of whether her IL will go up?

i know insecurity and anxiety helps to increase IL and given i've been AFC up till now changing my behavior suddenly is going to be too obvious rather than i'm not interested anymore. she'll know i'm playing a game.

i seem to feel it's rude not replying with a 'you're welcome, you too' message but that's what i normally do.

i know she'll be thinking about why i gave the flowers like i know her malle friends are in town and she suspects i'm jealous of them and her imagination gets the better of her. i'm not gona say why to her but i dont know if me replying now is going to lessen my chances?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I think i'm wondering if she's feeling any anxiety or insecurity tonight about me not replying is going to affect her night tonight.. i really dont know what she's going to get up to, once she's had a few drinks it's hard to say.. she's got a lot going on in her life so i can imagine all she needs now is a hard stiff one in her and i dont think it's me who's going to get the chance to do that.

i think cos she controls the frame and knows she has me she'll feel she can do whatever to whoever with whoever and i'd still come running.

it's the wrong mindset to have i know. she's very much in her right to do whatever so i shouldn't be worrying about it.
 

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Drop her, you are too needy. Next time you get a girl do thingd right from the jump and dont be needy. Dont always rrply to her text in a timely manner. Read the DJ Bible.
 

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Drift King said:
she knows what i'm like already, im impatient i reply quite swiftly to texts, either immediately or within the hour unless it's late at night. if i wait till tomorrow she'll know i'm playing games.
You can't leave your cell phone alone for more than 1 hour??? Sometimes I discover a text 6 hours later. Sometimes I'm not in the mood to text.

If a girl gets insecure because you don't reply back to her text, that will only be helpful to your game. She will be wondering what you are doing! I've got girls waiting on texts from last week! It's a new strategy I'm trying!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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