can negging and challenging backfire online?

[big weezy]

i have an odd scenario.. i was facebook sarging to supplement my daytime/real life sarging just to get the plate numbers up and i stumbled across this female who is attracted to my ethnic type and is learning my ancestors language.

it all was going well, she was playing along gave no indicators she was spoken for but when i went for the number she declines the invite saying shes in love with some other guy from my ethnicity but we can 'internet friends'

my first response to myself was 'yeah.. right..' so i tell her that i dont do internet friends and we can speak again when she becomes single again as relationships dont last. i also added the 'if im still available then'.

anyway she musta been upset that i wasnt going to be an orbiter giving her attention online to practise her language skills with and tells me i should try to be happy for her and her impending marriage rather than hoping she'll become available.

i refute this and go on to ask if she was actually engaged as her profile has non indicators of that bar the usual attention wh0re thing of looking for 'friendship and networking' but no mention of relationship status.

i negged her for this calling her one of 'those' girls without explicitly saying what exactly and that she seems a little young.

i then went on to point out statstically at her age the chances of it working out long term were unlikely and i was merely pointing out that fact rather than praying for the downfall in her relationship.

then i took it further by going over why i rejected her offer of internet friends telling her im not interested in that and that there are plenty of other AFCs out there willing to do that flattering her with attention and im not one of them (although thinking now if i was saying this in a message then aren't i actually flattering her with attention? so maybe i was contradicting myself)

this was a rather long message to her and i felt in content i said what i shoulda said tho 'actions before words' should be the motto and as a result she didnt reply and removed me from her friends list.. hahaha.. maybe i offended her? who knows.. all i know is im not gona do the AFC thing and apologise acting like a desperate loser about me not tryna cause offence etc.

should i have just not bothered with the message and just come back to a few months down the line to see how things were? i know for a fact that if a girl is attracted to my ethnic type i have a 100% success rate of banging her purely cos i know the physical attraction is there and my game is ok enough to follow it through

i have a problem that i always need to have the last word and i think in this case it's one which i really should have let her.

i shouldn't be letting go of potential plates until i've built up a large portfolio of numbers.

i know it may be sounding like oneitis but im tryna sort out my head around all this theory cos i do some things well and misunderstand other things and i dont wanna keep repeating mistakes.

 

[Tesl]

i shouldn't be letting go of potential plates until i've built up a large portfolio of numbers.

She wasn't a potential plate, she ruled herself out of that. The correct response would have been to wish her luck and then stop contacting her.

Too much energy being wasted here.

(I also don't understand facebook sarging, sounds ridiculous given how easy it is to just meet people in real life)

 

[big weezy]

She wasn't a potential plate, she ruled herself out of that. The correct response would have been to wish her luck and then stop contacting her.

Too much energy being wasted here.

(I also don't understand facebook sarging, sounds ridiculous given how easy it is to just meet people in real life)

nah.. this is where you're confused, WHEN they're attracted to my ethnic type then i know they're interested in me physically.. it's just sometimes timing isn't right.. i.e. in a relationship or whatnot.. sometimes you get lucky and they're single at the time.

but the facebook sarging is for me to practise my writing game and so i can be sarging literally 24hours a day 7 days a week.

i know what i should have done now.. said nothing. let her have the last word. actions before words. my non response would demonstrate my non acceptance of her 'wishing her luck' gesture, rather than what i did which was explain and try to justify.. real men dont explain, i read that somewhere in the dj bible or on here.

 

[1 Bad Dude]

+1 to Tesl.

The best thing you can do with approach resistances and rejections is to accept it and move on. Remember. They are afraid of the "great catch" walking away. Desperate chumps keep trying the same girl over and over because they don't have options. They won't let up until another option presents itself. I subscribe to the theory that every girl will reject you at some point to see if you'll walk away.