"Can my friends come too?"

[Incubus]

So I'm kinda wondering if this may be a test. I asked this girl if she would join me and my friends friday night when we all go out. Now the original idea is because it's my friends' anniversary so they asked me if I wanted to go out with them but obviously with a date. So I asked this girl if she was interested and she said yes (well, I just asked if she wanted to go out with me and my friends, guess I should have specified). But now she asked me if its ok if she brings a couple of her friends. Which would be perfect if these friends were a couple too....

So what would you guys say? I'm thinking of telling her "yes its fine, but are they a couple by any chance?" or something along those lines. Something better to say in this situation? Oh and she texted me this, so luckily I get a bit of extra time to think lol.

Oh and sorry for posting this on the tips forum too, I didn't realize it was the tips forum.

 

[Dole]

My friends asked me to go out with them on there anniversary and to bring a date. I asked you if you where interested as you fit the category for such event. I would not consider this a date between us but it does give us a chance to get to know each other better.

That's what I would say.

 

[Andromax]

I would not consider this a date between us.

Thats bad advice if he wanted it to be a date...

Anyways.. if she asks if she can bring friends along, casually ask if they have dates as well..

 

[DonJuan11]

I asked this girl if she would join me and my friends friday night when we all go out. Now the original idea is because it's my friends' anniversary so they asked me if I wanted to go out with them but obviously with a date. So I asked this girl if she was interested and she said yes (well, I just asked if she wanted to go out with me and my friends, guess I should have specified). But now she asked me if its ok if she brings a couple of her friends. Which would be perfect if these friends were a couple too....

So what would you guys say? I'm thinking of telling her "yes its fine, but are they a couple by any chance?" or something along those lines. Something better to say in this situation? Oh and she texted me this, so luckily I get a bit of extra time to think lol.

Oh and sorry for posting this on the tips forum too, I didn't realize it was the tips forum.

Why would you say yes if you just wanted her to come to be your date? If you ask if her friends are couples, you are opening up a can of worms.

"Are you friends couples?"
"No"
"Ok then they can't come"

"Oh, so you were just using me as your date?"
"Oh, so you just wanted to be alone with me after?"
"Oh, so you don't care about my friends?"

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When she leaves your a$$, she's going to leave with half.

 

[paraguayandj]

Well, I think she was probably thinking you guys were gonna go party or something. To comfort her and so that she will feel safer, she was probably thinking of bringing friends. You should be straight with her and tell her that everybody was gonna go as couples and if her friend were bringing dates with them, then it should be fine. I would check with the people organizing this event to see if is cool thou. Btw, you asked if this is a test. I wouldn't say is so much a test, is more of a safety net for her. Maybe you haven't build up a lot of trust between you too to ask her something like that.

 

[ARrocket]

just say "only if they are couples, because everyone else will be couples....you are supposed to be my date"

 

[Prodigy746]

yah i am sure she didnt understand that you were going with 2 friends that were dating. She probobly thoguht you wanted her to come and hang out with 4-5 other guys and naturally she wants to bring some more girls with her.

 

[Bussey]

My best suggestion is to not go to this anniversary with her. The friends thing suggests she's not fully comfortable being around you alone/undecided.

My experience, but putting too much on the table (Couples anniversary party) without establishing the right relationship/comfort with the girl leads to a dead end in the long run.

 

[Incubus]

Ok well maybe I should have clarified that it's not a formal anniversary. I guess they do some little thing every month and it's their 2 year and 5 months one. Yes I know what you're all thinking, I thought the same thing....its stupid. But I respect that they want to do this.

Anyway thanks for all your help. I explained the whole situation to her and told her why I asked her to come with me and she understands its a date now. She actually said that was a really good reason for me to ask her to join us, so I'm guessing she's happy to go on this date. Now time to have fun tomorrow!

 

[DonGorgon]

I hate when girls do that...