Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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"Can my friends come too?"

Incubus

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So I'm kinda wondering if this may be a test. I asked this girl if she would join me and my friends friday night when we all go out. Now the original idea is because it's my friends' anniversary so they asked me if I wanted to go out with them but obviously with a date. So I asked this girl if she was interested and she said yes (well, I just asked if she wanted to go out with me and my friends, guess I should have specified). But now she asked me if its ok if she brings a couple of her friends. Which would be perfect if these friends were a couple too....

So what would you guys say? I'm thinking of telling her "yes its fine, but are they a couple by any chance?" or something along those lines. Something better to say in this situation? Oh and she texted me this, so luckily I get a bit of extra time to think lol.

Oh and sorry for posting this on the tips forum too, I didn't realize it was the tips forum.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dole

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My friends asked me to go out with them on there anniversary and to bring a date. I asked you if you where interested as you fit the category for such event. I would not consider this a date between us but it does give us a chance to get to know each other better.

That's what I would say.
 

Andromax

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Dole said:
I would not consider this a date between us.
Thats bad advice if he wanted it to be a date...

Anyways.. if she asks if she can bring friends along, casually ask if they have dates as well..
 

DonJuan11

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Incubus said:
I asked this girl if she would join me and my friends friday night when we all go out. Now the original idea is because it's my friends' anniversary so they asked me if I wanted to go out with them but obviously with a date. So I asked this girl if she was interested and she said yes (well, I just asked if she wanted to go out with me and my friends, guess I should have specified). But now she asked me if its ok if she brings a couple of her friends. Which would be perfect if these friends were a couple too....

So what would you guys say? I'm thinking of telling her "yes its fine, but are they a couple by any chance?" or something along those lines. Something better to say in this situation? Oh and she texted me this, so luckily I get a bit of extra time to think lol.

Oh and sorry for posting this on the tips forum too, I didn't realize it was the tips forum.

Why would you say yes if you just wanted her to come to be your date? If you ask if her friends are couples, you are opening up a can of worms.

"Are you friends couples?"
"No"
"Ok then they can't come"

"Oh, so you were just using me as your date?"
"Oh, so you just wanted to be alone with me after?"
"Oh, so you don't care about my friends?"

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When she leaves your a$$, she's going to leave with half.
 

paraguayandj

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Well, I think she was probably thinking you guys were gonna go party or something. To comfort her and so that she will feel safer, she was probably thinking of bringing friends. You should be straight with her and tell her that everybody was gonna go as couples and if her friend were bringing dates with them, then it should be fine. I would check with the people organizing this event to see if is cool thou. Btw, you asked if this is a test. I wouldn't say is so much a test, is more of a safety net for her. Maybe you haven't build up a lot of trust between you too to ask her something like that.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ARrocket

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just say "only if they are couples, because everyone else will be couples....you are supposed to be my date"
 

Prodigy746

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yah i am sure she didnt understand that you were going with 2 friends that were dating. She probobly thoguht you wanted her to come and hang out with 4-5 other guys and naturally she wants to bring some more girls with her.
 

Bussey

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My best suggestion is to not go to this anniversary with her. The friends thing suggests she's not fully comfortable being around you alone/undecided.

My experience, but putting too much on the table (Couples anniversary party) without establishing the right relationship/comfort with the girl leads to a dead end in the long run.
 

Incubus

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Ok well maybe I should have clarified that it's not a formal anniversary. I guess they do some little thing every month and it's their 2 year and 5 months one. Yes I know what you're all thinking, I thought the same thing....its stupid. But I respect that they want to do this.

Anyway thanks for all your help. I explained the whole situation to her and told her why I asked her to come with me and she understands its a date now. She actually said that was a really good reason for me to ask her to join us, so I'm guessing she's happy to go on this date. Now time to have fun tomorrow!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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