Good evening fellow donjuaners , i have a dilema for you , first of all im married ( my problem anyway!!) , i have several like maybe 4-5 good female friends , i myself occasionally hang out with each of them on once a week or every 2 weeks , we go to concerts , movies , go dancing etc my wife does not do half this stuff with me so i resort to friends , most of my female friends are either married or single my wife thinks its weird for me to hang out with them , all of these ladies trust me 100% and know im married so i want to know if im doing bad thing , by the way my wife does not go out at all with male or female friends she is a couch potato and makes me feel guilty on all of this , its nice having friends male or female and all of my female friends like my company to hang with let me know your take on this
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Can men and women be friends ??
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Big Eee Zee
Master Don Juan
I think you can. I have a good female friend, I used to like her and still do to a small extent, but I've realized that if I ever had her I wouldn't want her. It's just the chase that has me confused. So it's completely platonic.
Bad thing? What?
Hanging out with people you like in a completely platonic matter is a bad thing?
If your wife is having problems trusting you with your OWN friends...I mean, what? Just because they are women you should stop hanging out with them? That's crazy. If she's jealous, then there's something that she needs to work through. She should trust you 100% and you should trust yourself 100% if you're married.
That's just my own, uninformed, unexperienced view. But to me, it seems like common sense.
Hanging out with people you like in a completely platonic matter is a bad thing?
If your wife is having problems trusting you with your OWN friends...I mean, what? Just because they are women you should stop hanging out with them? That's crazy. If she's jealous, then there's something that she needs to work through. She should trust you 100% and you should trust yourself 100% if you're married.
That's just my own, uninformed, unexperienced view. But to me, it seems like common sense.
Well, if your wife intentionally makes you feel guilty and wants you to feel guilty, then you've got a serious problem on your hands. This guilt trip thing is a form of control which you should not give in to unless you are willing to let go of those specific freedoms you have and you will be happy about it. Seldom will anyone be truly happy by giving up their freedom.
So, best bet is to talk to her and work things out with her if this is indeed the case. She has to know that a marriage does not require any one party to cut their social life away. Both parties have to understand that any demands they make, any control they exert, and any freedom they want to take away may have the dire consequences of starting an irreversible process towards an unhappy and doomed relationship.
So, best bet is to talk to her and work things out with her if this is indeed the case. She has to know that a marriage does not require any one party to cut their social life away. Both parties have to understand that any demands they make, any control they exert, and any freedom they want to take away may have the dire consequences of starting an irreversible process towards an unhappy and doomed relationship.
Man ive kind of been forced into the situation to become friends with a girl. Its just some girl ive ended up bumping into back from school but shes married, so nothings going to happen between us.
We used to both like eachother back in school but it doesnt matter anymore. Plus shes arabian and if i tried anything.... fuk knows what will happen to me. Ill probably end up getting beheaded live on the internet.
Anyway its kind of cool having a girl friend though. Good social proof and plus its kind of different to having a guy buddy. Its cool flirting with a girl for fun sometimes. Just joking and teasing her about for a joke. You cant really do that with your guy buds.
We used to both like eachother back in school but it doesnt matter anymore. Plus shes arabian and if i tried anything.... fuk knows what will happen to me. Ill probably end up getting beheaded live on the internet.
Anyway its kind of cool having a girl friend though. Good social proof and plus its kind of different to having a guy buddy. Its cool flirting with a girl for fun sometimes. Just joking and teasing her about for a joke. You cant really do that with your guy buds.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
i new this chick once, she was way taller then me (and had an extra few pounds) so I would not date her (even if I had the chance) However, we just clicked. We got along awsome. Even tho I really liked her a lot (as a friend) there was no sexual spart between us....
so my answer: On rare ocasions, It is.
You have to ask your self: Do I really wana Fvck this chick if she trew her self at me... if the answer is yes, then you probably shouldn t heng out with her.......(unless you wana traid in your wife)
so my answer: On rare ocasions, It is.
You have to ask your self: Do I really wana Fvck this chick if she trew her self at me... if the answer is yes, then you probably shouldn t heng out with her.......(unless you wana traid in your wife)
XtremeRacingDiva
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No!
People of the opposite sex that are "just" friends are friends because they are going to have sex, have had sex, or thinking about having sex with one another Wanna be my friend?
People of the opposite sex that are "just" friends are friends because they are going to have sex, have had sex, or thinking about having sex with one another
Wanna be my friend?