"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Can meditation boost confidence?

SayWhat

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Hi all

My main concern is my confidence. I'm trying everything I can to make it better and am still searching for more ways.

I've stumbled onto meditation. I tried it a few months ago, but to try to make my concentration levels while studying go up. I have to be honest, after just 4-5 days of 10 minutes of meditation I gave up, I didn't see any improvement, it even got worse.

But I want to try it again, as I read a lot you have to have patience for the effects to kick in. Is this true? Are there persons on this forum who do it and can tell me all the benefits?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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dasein

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I don't know if it can boost confidence, but it definitely helps remove some things that stand in the way of confidence like fear of rejection and fear generally. Meditation helps show trivial thoughts of guilt, shame, anger and even lust for the illusions they are.

There are several types of meditation. I am not a practicing monk, so prefer walking meditation, standing meditation, everyday activity meditation, even lying down meditation to the standard sitting for hours. The posture is not important, the state of mind is. You can probably google up tons of info on all these types.

The best way to build confidence with people and eventually women is to cultivate a social network of people giving positive feedback over time. Talk to everyone you see, no matter who they are. Start with "hello" and a nod as you pass. Take an interest in them and their lives. Confidence will follow.
 

Rave18

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dasein said:
I don't know if it can boost confidence, but it definitely helps remove some things that stand in the way of confidence like fear of rejection and fear generally. Meditation helps show trivial thoughts of guilt, shame, anger and even lust for the illusions they are.

There are several types of meditation. I am not a practicing monk, so prefer walking meditation, standing meditation, everyday activity meditation, even lying down meditation to the standard sitting for hours. The posture is not important, the state of mind is. You can probably google up tons of info on all these types.

The best way to build confidence with people and eventually women is to cultivate a social network of people giving positive feedback over time. Talk to everyone you see, no matter who they are. Start with "hello" and a nod as you pass. Take an interest in them and their lives. Confidence will follow.
I agree with the above. Highly recommend the following, for a beginner

Nine Secrets of Successful Meditation
 

PeasantPlayer

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Meditation is about awareness, and letting go. You won't build confidence, but it can help with the fear you have of not being confident
 
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