"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Can Love Be Factored Out of the Equation?

bigneil

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Imagine any previous relationship (one that you accept has already ended) in two aspects:

A) She says she never loved you.
B) She says she always loved you.

Does it make any difference? Isn't love just some intangible way to describe attraction and mating instincts in the moment?

Granted, attraction and interest level are everything, but they should have been implied by the way she treated you (i.e., what she did).

If love can indeed be factored out of the entire relationship, when (as they often do at the end of the relationship) a woman tells you she never loved you (i.e., what she said), should it even matter?

Remember that in general, women can only accurately describe the emotions they feel at the moment, so in their mind they either always loved you or never loved you. They'll never answer C) I used to love you but I don't any more (as a logical man would).

So the next time a woman drops this line on you, shouldn't you just laugh at her?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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badboyjmm

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To be honest whether she says A or B it should be taken seriously. Why ?

a) I can't believe this, especially when she was investing time, resources, money into the relationship. She probably trying to make you mad since she's bitter about the end of the relationship (or she just want you to be mad so you can leave her alone)

b) Just words spoken, I consider those as attempt to make you feel guilty and keep you in the relationship. Most of the time, the girl saying that as a boyfriend about a month after. :crackup: On the rare cases, you could use her as a fu*k-buddy but it won't last very long in my opinion.

As you mentioned before bigneil,
Remember that in general, women can only accurately describe the emotions they feel at the moment, so in their mind they either always loved you or never loved you
So I would not laugh about those statements, I just would not take them seriously
 
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