I've just realized a trend on this board. Girl is interested in the guy, she gives clear buying signals whether physical related or obvious remarks in order to get the guy to do something. The guy doesn't act on these signals for whatever reason. Maybe he was nervous/scared or was just plain oblivious to the buying signs.
Perhaps a while later, the guy gets his act together and finally asks her out. To his surprise, she rejects him. I mean what the f*ck...she was obviously interested wasn't she? Maybe she thought that he wasn't into her and that she was rejecting him, so she mentally blocked any feelings that she had for him. I mean why would she continue hanging on to a guy who she thinks wasn't interested in her, right?
What's funny as that even if the guy was totally oblivious and didn't pick up on the signals NOR ask her out, she would still be friendly. She would think he wasn't interested, but still think he is a good guy like she always thought. But if he doesn't escalate her advances, and instead waits and THEN asks her out she is offended and acts cold toward him. She felt rejected when her initial signals weren't acted upon, so she tries to mentally tune out her feelings for him...and as soon as the guy asks her out she is turned off and offended.
Any advice on a situation like this? What can come out of it, friendship...something more.....nothing at all? At the very least she finds you attractive, and enjoyed being around you otherwise she wouldn't have given those obvious hints in the first place. Can these feelings resurface? If so, how? Do you admit that you weren't thinking straight etc. or do u sweep it under the rug and start fresh?
Perhaps a while later, the guy gets his act together and finally asks her out. To his surprise, she rejects him. I mean what the f*ck...she was obviously interested wasn't she? Maybe she thought that he wasn't into her and that she was rejecting him, so she mentally blocked any feelings that she had for him. I mean why would she continue hanging on to a guy who she thinks wasn't interested in her, right?
What's funny as that even if the guy was totally oblivious and didn't pick up on the signals NOR ask her out, she would still be friendly. She would think he wasn't interested, but still think he is a good guy like she always thought. But if he doesn't escalate her advances, and instead waits and THEN asks her out she is offended and acts cold toward him. She felt rejected when her initial signals weren't acted upon, so she tries to mentally tune out her feelings for him...and as soon as the guy asks her out she is turned off and offended.
Any advice on a situation like this? What can come out of it, friendship...something more.....nothing at all? At the very least she finds you attractive, and enjoyed being around you otherwise she wouldn't have given those obvious hints in the first place. Can these feelings resurface? If so, how? Do you admit that you weren't thinking straight etc. or do u sweep it under the rug and start fresh?