Can I win her back? (MSN Transcript)

[spinaroonie]

Long story short -
met a girl off of POF back in September
we chatted on msn, texted back and forth
well we met up one afternoon, drove over to hamilton
contrary to most of my buddies' experience, she looked even better in person
we had a good connection
very sweet, graceful feminine girl
unfortunately owing to long distance it never really worked out
and she told me she met a guy in the meantime
so i let it go, she said we should keep in touch i said sure but never really did
didnt think it would be worthwhle
well she was just on msn and msged me
asked me how things were going i said not too bad but the fish arent biting they're all rotten
and she started reminisicng of that time we went out and told me things werent working out with her bf
im thinking im her "**** in a glass case / just in case" guy
in case of emergency, break open

Do I have a shot at winning her back?

Chat Transcript below:

HB:
hey mister
Mace:
well look who it is
what's cooking brown sugar
HB:
hehe..your funny & not too much feelin kind of sickk
Mace:
whats wrong butter pecan
lovesick
i have the cure
HB:
haha..nope I am losing my voice
Mace:
oh no whats wrong mariah?
HB:
lol...I'm not sure, since Friday I've been feeling weird & now my voice is almost gone
Mace:
i have that effect on girls too
usually from all the screaming

HB:
lmao
ohh gosh
Mace:
how are your salsa lessons going
HB:
they are going good, but I haven't gone in three weeks cause of school
but I am going this week
Mace:
aww swinging those hips
well its in your blood
HB:
haha it is ..I went to the Kelsey's we went to today, I went for a b-day party & I thought of our martinis lol
Mace:
that was good times
HB:
it was the go karting was fun too
Mace:
i was gonna say
everytime im driving
and i see a crazy driver on the road
i think of you


HB:
lmao I'm not crazy..but I did get us lost on our way to the movies
Mace:
which we didnt end up going to
.... cuz someone here didnt know it would be closed

HB:
lmao
it worked out for the better
mini golf was fun
even though you kicked my but
Mace:
agreed
altho movie dates suck
how do you get to know someone when you're sitting in a dark corner staring at a screen for 2 hours
HB:
so true, not enough communication
Mace:
well i must admit
ive been trying to recreate that magic
but the girls ive been coming across lately have not been the best quaity
i should move to hamilton

HB:
lol..the best live over here
aww, it's okay
your a great guy
I'm sure you'll find someone sweet and sincere
Mace:
and hows your love life?
HB:
hmm complicated
Sen says:
:S
HB:
yeahhh..I just think some guys don't know what they want
I rather here the truth, then play games
**hear
Mace:
love is not a game
so why are there so many players?
HB:
I knowww..it's not at all, like my bf right now..I told him that I'm a v & that I want to wait until marriage & he said he didn't have a problem with it at the beginning & now he is changing?
Mace:
that would be hard for a lot of guys to accept
HB:
that's what he said but why did he agree?
Mace:
b/c you're not like most girls
remember when we met
and i joked about you
you're too sweet and feminine
"they still make you?"

HB:
awww, your sweet too..I loved your texts where you'd call me mocha
Mace:
i think you and i belong to a different generation
i admit i'm an old school guy
i like to court a lady
unfortunately, there arent too many ladies out these these days
soo i can see how a guy would be attracted
to your feminine charms
and the way you carry yourself
is classy and very endearing
HB:
awwwwwwww..your too sweet. I kind of regret not getting to know you more. You were such a gentleman
Mace:
i knew you would
HB:
I'm glad we're still talking though
Mace:
i am too
HB:
anyways hun..I'm gonna go watch my favourite showwwwwwwwwwwwww
the amazing race
have a goodnight
Mace:
you too
ill txt you sometime
HB:
I am excited..I know it will be a fun one
Mace:
hahaha you know me too well
HB:
haha I do


Your thoughts please... Advice on how to proceed?

 

[horaholic]

Read the DJ bible.

 

[Waking Up]

...

*buzzer sound*

 

[Igetit!]

Read the DJ bible.

EXACTLY.

And Waking Up's comment was on the money as well.


Dude,you're just a micro-inch away from the friendzone....if you're not there already.



You might have a chance with her if you'd stop playing games and beating around the bush with your intentions.


LOL,Cinamon got on to me when I said that whenever women throw around adverbs like "very" and "too" in front of words like "sweet" and "nice" that you're headed for the friendzone,but it's true.


You've been here almost a year,which is too long to be making novice/rookie mistakes like this.


You're violating beginner's principles.


It may be possible to get her back,but you need to STOP PLAYING GAMES and be serious about it....and SOON.

 

[SchoolBoy]

You act like the friend, you will become the friend.

You keep indirectly indicating you want to be with her.

And the way you give her all these compliments shows her that you put her on a pedestal.

My advice is to stop being her friend, cuz friends don't get layed.

 

[Joe Stud]

I dont think you did bad at all. You were "hooking" her. how far away is she? FB material?

 

[jophil28]

I dont think you did bad at all. You were "hooking" her. how far away is she? FB material?

" ..butter pecan.. " ?
A line from a Bridget Jones movie or a Meg Ryan weepie?

 

[Waking Up]

HB:
lol..the best live over here
aww, it's okay
your a great guy
I'm sure you'll find someone sweet and sincere

That was the dagger.

 

[spinaroonie]

I thought friendzone = a girl who never did and will never see you as romantic potential. In this case there was once romantic attraction between the two of us.

 

[theunflushables]

No, friendzone can occur at any time. Its very easy to get into, but hard to get out of.

If you were able to get back with her, there are two things that are concerning. A. She lives some distance from you. LDR's are horrible. B. She's a virgin and sounds like she is resolute in keeping it that way until marriage. (However, if that is compatible with your belief in pre-marital sex that wouldn't be such a problem.)