"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Can I repair this?

i_am_im_me

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OK met a girl through a mate on msn, we got on really well so decided to meet up. We had been doing some serious flirting over msn and she was totally into me. She invited me round her house for a watch a movie data:rolleyes:

Well I get there and she is mega hot, the pictures she sent me made her look nice but she is so much hotter then these pics. Well surprised with this i freak out and unfortunately resort to AFC tactics:(

She was all chatty and i could just not think of anything to say, it was horrible! I'm usually fine in making conversation but for some reason with her i could not come up with anything. Well in the end she gav up attempting to make conversation and put on a film. By this time i had said hardly anything. When the film came on we did not even sit next to each other. Well in the end i had had enough of this torture and made my excuses and left.

Now what i want to know is if i can save this. Normally if it was any other girl i would just choke it down to experience and find another girl but this girl is well different. She is mega hot but not only that she actually has things in common with me (this is pretty rare in everyone, no one has anything in common with me:rolleyes: ).

I have not spoke to her since meeting her. Could i send her a text giving some kind of excuse why i was so silent? Maybe tell her i was stunned by her beauty (lol how afc would that be:) ), maybe tell her i had just had an argument with a mate or something.

Any ideas or suggestions would really help me out, thanks...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Desdinova

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Learn from your mistakes and move on.

but this girl is well different. She is mega hot but not only that she actually has things in common with me
All women are different. Just because she's attractive and has things in common with you, it doesn't mean she's a good woman. Would you still be praising this woman if she had a coke addiction and herpes?
 

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hmm yeah fair point but the thing is she does not have a coke addiction and herpes. I just would like to give it another attempt with her, is there something i could say that would explain away me being so silent and score me another date?
 

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Well you did everything wrong and you know it. ;0

I think most people will give you a second chance but any supplicating you do will wreck it even more. Don't apologize. Don't make up an excuse. Completely ignore what happened and try one more time to get together with her. You'll know the deal pretty quickly if she is up for it or not.

Seems pretty doubtful at this point though.
 

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So I should just ignore the fact that i was a silent fool and just try and initiate convo with her again? Hmm I don't know I think I should really come sort of say something about it otherwise she will never agree to another date as she will think i will be silent the whole time.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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i_am_im_me said:
So I should just ignore the fact that i was a silent fool and just try and initiate convo with her again? Hmm I don't know I think I should really come sort of say something about it otherwise she will never agree to another date as she will think i will be silent the whole time.
I don't think you should explain
 
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