Can I really do this?

[kly3003]

I have tried, really tried but I dont think this site can work for me. I want someone to convinnce me Im wrong, and maybe being self-centered to think my problems are bigger than anyone elses.

I can't find the confidence to use DJ techniques because I am insecure. I have red/orange hair, and I feel like Im not allowed by society to use all the DJ techniques. I don't want to make it sound like everyone should feel sorry for redheads, or anyting like that. I actually don't mind having red hair personally, as bright and shiney and differnet as it is. I don't mind it. BUt so many people draw attention to it on a daily basis, and a lot of times in a bad way, that it is hard not to get down on myself or think I cant get girls. The hardest part is knowing that its NOT just evil, mean spirited, ignorant people that make fun of red heads. It is an accepted, normal thing to point and laugh at red heads. I get it, I understand, Im not bitter towards society it makes sense to me. BUt do you think it;s wrong for me to be insecure? I mean I am afraid to talk to girls who I am not even remotely attracted to, it really doesn't make sense when I think about it. BUt it's an insecurity that I think is justified by society

Id like to believe that it is true that 99% of guys don't have any physical abnormalities that can stop them from being DJs but I think having red hair means you are repressed from making bold DJ moves.

 

[MooseGod]

gimme a break... I have a friend (well, not so much anymore) who is scrawny, red-headed and ugly (ugly 'cause he's ugly, not because he has red hair) and still pulls sorority ass all the time. In fact, he's probably the biggest douche I know. Arrogant little bastard...needs his ass kicked for various reasons...anyway...looks have nothing to do with it.

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

yea . I have a friend too that is really ugly . But trust me , he attracts girls more than anyone . More than me . Im pretty good on this but he's better . He's natural DJ.

Post a pic. of yourself ( if its possible ) and we may help . Or just PM me a photo of yourself and maybe i can help .

You just gotta look best of yourself .
And yes these technuiqs works for everyone . This is exact science and they are designed to work . Im not talking only about Sosuave because 80% of the stuff i learned from books , videos and most important FIELD .

 

[ElStud]

If I can get a girls number, any one get girls. Seriously go, going back to my Freshman year I was terrible with girls. I really didn't start to improve until I met this other dude who was in the same situation, who gave me advice. Sophomore year I really didn't do anything seduction wise and I really didn't even start getting back into seduction until late junior year where I really started to improve. This year, my senior year, I've improved A LOT and today I finally got my first successful number close, as well as a second successful number close. At this rate, I could definitely get laid by the end of this school year, if not then, then by college. Point is, if I can do this, anyone can.

 

[LeComteDeMonteCristo]

YOUR HAIR COLOR WILL NOT STOP YOU BEING GOOD WITH WOMEN
I REPEAT, YOUR HAIR COLOR WILL NOT STOP YOU BEING GOOD WITH WOMEN.

It is absolutely crucial that you believe this so you MUST drill it into your head.

You will NEVER be good with women until you start believing that you are WORTHY of success with women.

Right now you talk about yourself as if you are a piece of crap. You don't identify yourself as a sex worthy guy and so you don't get sex. THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUR HAIR COLOR.

Thought like this do not serve you, so GET RID OF THEM.

Society WANTS you to feel like a piece of crap. Advertising, the media, they want you to feel like you are not good enough so that you keep buying whatever crap they are selling. IT IS ALL AN ILLUSION. A LIE. Recognize this.

Stop searching for validation outside of yourself. Look within. Find that core unshakable confidence. Have the 100 percent belief that you are an attractive guy worthy of success with women. THIS IS THE TRUTH. What people think of you is none of your business. It does not affect your worth. Their words have only the power you are giving to them.

Stop with the bullcrap excuses to justify your under-achievement. Go out there and GET WHAT YOU DESERVE.

 

[JEFE]

imo you need some good experience to upgrate your confidence, I have hear thad pic up artist us some thing call peacocking that mean use some thing to atracc atention, do some research of this you can use your hair like a peacock stufff. learn to "use what you got"

 

[ItsOnNow]

I suffer from the same problem. I am trying to break free.

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

You can dye your hair too . Maybe it raises your confidence .

But best advice is go on field practise a game alot , dont take rejection personally , its just a exercise . And by the time youll be banging chicks and your confidence is gonna hit the top .

Dye your hair , make a good hairstyle . Experiment until you see whats best for you .

 

[judoguy]

This is simple. You are blaming your hair color for your lack of confidence when really you should be looking in the mirror.

If girls never ****ed guys with red hair, then you wouldn't be alive today. The gene's had to be passed from somewhere.


Do you think a anyone really gives a **** what color your hair is? This could actually work in your favor by helping you peacock and or being the start of a ****y/ funny conversation.

"You wish you had this hair"

"If your a good girl I might let you touch it, etc"

Your hair has nothing to do with your Djing skills, but if you really feel awkward with your red hair then it could be hurting your confidence which would hurt your Djing skills.


My advice.... Hit the gym...take a good hard look in the mirror and stop being a baby....

Go out their and get rejected.... You will realize its not that bad...

Stop giving a **** what society or chicks think about you....

When these things fall into place, people will look at you different and you can stop making excuses about something stupid like your hair color because thats all it is, an excuse.


Man up... Jump in front of the mirror get pumped up to a point where you dont give a ****.... and go out an release the man you knew you could be.


My $0.02

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

If girls never ****ed guys with red hair, then you wouldn't be alive today. The gene's had to be passed from somewhere.

lol :crackup: