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Can I please have a FULL definition of an AFC and ALPHA

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Can I please have a FULL definition of an AFC and ALPHA,

Thank you.
 

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This is my definition and most people also interpret it like this.

AFC
- Person who puts women on a pedestal and does a lot of supplication
- They have scarcity mentality (Many people on here included have this)
- They don't know how to get girls
- They fear rejection. When I say fear of rejection I mean it, in more forms than just opening. They don't only fear getting rejected when opening...they fear it when escalating, #closing, venue changing, etc.
- Tend to get into the friend zone a lot and don't pull that much if any women
- WEAK REALITY

Alpha
- Person who conveys a lot of dominance (Body langauge, voice, eye contact)
- Some people who are naturally alpha tend to have stronger frames than people who are less dominant

An there you have it. Don't assume that if your alpha then your not AFC, because you can be both. Alpha is mainly just about dominance. You could be very dominant and still supplicate by buying roses, rings, cars, houses, etc.
 

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Snow Plowman said:
This is my definition and most people also interpret it like this.

AFC
- Person who puts women on a pedestal and does a lot of supplication
- They have scarcity mentality (Many people on here included have this)
- They don't know how to get girls
- They fear rejection. When I say fear of rejection I mean it, in more forms than just opening. They don't only fear getting rejected when opening...they fear it when escalating, #closing, venue changing, etc.
- Tend to get into the friend zone a lot and don't pull that much if any women
- WEAK REALITY

Alpha
- Person who conveys a lot of dominance (Body langauge, voice, eye contact)
- Some people who are naturally alpha tend to have stronger frames than people who are less dominant

An there you have it. Don't assume that if your alpha then your not AFC, because you can be both. Alpha is mainly just about dominance. You could be very dominant and still supplicate by buying roses, rings, cars, houses, etc.
I agree with you about "AFC", but only partially agree with you about "aplha". People who are alpha do display those qualities, however it helps you to realize what "alpha" really is.

Alpha isn't body language, actions, or anything you DO. "Alpha" is a pattern of THINKING. The term is actually "Alpha brain waves", which has been medically studied and all that mumbo jumbo I won't go into.

However, just realizing that "alpha" is not a pattern of ACTION, but rather a pattern of THINKING is HUGE. Why? Because to be truly "alpha" (and not just applying masks to your beta personality), you want to change your pattern of THINKING. When this happens, your ******d actions will follow automatically.
 

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And for the technical blarg, I point you to a wiki article about it:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alpha_waves

And another article:

http://skepdic.com/alphawaves.html

An interesting concept you are going to find when you study this stuff is that your mind enters an "alpha" like state when you are FULLY RELAXED. Things like Yoga, Zen, etc. are common things that bring alpha brain patterns, and as a Don Juan you should look at this and the lights should come on: HEY!!!! MAYBE I NEED TO START DOING SOME MEDITATION!!!

Try it.
 
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