"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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can i grow our my hair?

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i want to grow my hair out into a ponytail but im not sure how to grow it out my friends say to get shape up or a tape up but im not sure i also wanna know if a ponytail would suit my face. and my hair is pretty long right now so i was wondering on a hairtsyle to wear while i grow it out.

here is a pic of me a month ago http://img215.imageshack.us/my.php?image=untitled8ul1.jpg
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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A ponytail would look great on you. It would make you look older.
 

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You kidding? I think it'd look loads better shorter.
 

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you're better off asking a barber but i agree with wescott it looks fine short
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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As far as I'm aware, pony tails look absolutely weird on guys. Get a buzz cut and spike your hair. Get rid of that gold chain thing too, please.
 

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Skilla_Staz said:
As far as I'm aware, pony tails look absolutely weird on guys. Get a buzz cut and spike your hair.
I hope you're being ironic.
 

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so what hairstyle could i wear until it grows out into a pontytail its to big fer spikes and every one in my skool has eighter a mowhawk or gotti blowout style
 

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You shouldn't grow out your hair. Also, that pic you showed has your hair too long.

Every barber gives the same advice: Choose a haircut that doesn't make any of your facial features stand out. I usually go 4 on the sides, 5 on top. I have dense, fine hair. Some people have thin, thick hair. Ask an experienced barber what he/she recommends for your hair type.

This is interesting because its much like the bulking vs cutting argument. A cut look can be achieved with very little effort. A bulked look definately takes effort, and is percieved that way. So when people see you bulked they realize you maintain it and so their opinion of you increases. Same with short hair, if you get it cut often you show you maintain your hair. Long hair people show they're too insecure, complacent, or lazy to get a freaking haircut. Maybe that's not their intent, but that's how its perceived by John & Jane Random.
 
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doctoroxygen said:
I hope you're being ironic.

How is there irony in that statement?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Skilla_Staz said:
How is there irony in that statement?
I suppose he thinks it's weird that you're recommending he change his hair to look like everyone else's.
 

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grr said:
Every barber gives the same advice: Choose a haircut that doesn't make any of your facial features stand out.
Never heard about this theory, but I'm not an expert on this stuff. Anyway, would you consider facial features even stuff like "blue eyes"? I mean people with blue or green eyes are supposed to wear their hair longer, in order to take attention away from them? Same thing with full lips?
 

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Maybe. Here's something that helps me when I look at something and try to get the "overall picture":

Blur your eyes.

For example If you notice two huge blue blobs (your eyes) in the mirror when you do this, you might want longer hair. Same with lips. It sounds weird, but trust me: Just try it and you'll see how it works.

You won't be distracted by minor details with blurred eyes, so the major details naturally stand out and you can see the ...for lack of a better phrase, "first impression" you give off.
 
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First of all, if you're going to cut your hair, DON'T use clippers. Clippers cut all the hair to the same length, so it sticks up at the corners of your head. Celebrities with short hair still get their hair scissored, so it lays down and has interesting texture. Clippered hair has no texture and looks low class.

That said, I still think you should grow your hair. You look young in that picture, and shorter hair would only make you look younger. You have darker features and darker hair, both characteristics that make me think shiny shoulder length hair would look great on you.

What I did while it was growing out was blow-dry it up in tall, messy, twisted spikes with some matte clay paste. It was actually my most popular hairstyle (the only hairstyle I've had that strangers came up to me on the street and complimented me on), so don't worry about looking weird. The idea is to not look like everybody else.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Not on a buzz, but nobody who's not a soldier or in prison should have a buzz.
 

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First of all, if you're going to cut your hair, DON'T use clippers. Clippers cut all the hair to the same length, so it sticks up at the corners of your head. Celebrities with short hair still get their hair scissored, so it lays down and has interesting texture. Clippered hair has no texture and looks low class.
That's how I can tell if my barber is experienced. If she does a proper job on my crown's corners (basically where your parts are on either side) so they're parallel with the sides of my head, instead of rounded like in a buzzcut then I know she's probably been barbering for 3-5+ years. I always comment about it and try to guess how long they've been barbering. She usually just does it at that point, but if not I can fix it at home. Its really easy.
 

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... Guess you don't get out much. Shaved head is cool, girls dig it and its no fuss. Did u watch the world cup? didn't think so
 

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Yeah but what do you do when it grows out?

Think about women, you always find the ones who change hairstyles more attractive than they would be same day after day after day.

What does the world cup have to do with going out? Tell me before I headbutt you.
 

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yeah your right its cool to switch it up. most the guys in the world cup had shaved heads and it looked really good to me at least. I had vary long hair a fews years back then i cut it down to a norm. guy cut now i shaved it to a # 2. Its a summer thing i guess. Not having to think about my hair is priceless.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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