Can I get her back? (strange breakup)

[KillingTime]

I have been with a certain girl for some time now, I've never met anyone who showed SO much interest in me, she seriously treated me like a king and we got along great... only one issue, she had very bad jealousy issues. I was getting checked on CONSTANTLY, it would start a lot of conflicts between us, can't tell you how many times she was crying and crying thinking that i was interested in other people etc. when it wasn't even the case. (For the record im very loyal when in a relationship, so it was all in her head)

She told me I seem really suspicious and that we should just take time apart b/c she doesn't believe anything I say and it's driving her crazy. I immediatelly thought "hmmm, she could be lying", but from the bit of contact with some of her aquaintances it seems that her crazy story is actually legit, she's not seeing anyone else or anything... apparantly jealousy really did drive her to do this.

Anyway, I was ultra calm about it and told her it was fine but i was pretty much taking it as a breakup from her, she started to tear up and pretty much said I chose to breakup with her and it was obvious i didn't even care b/c i was so calm. we haven't talked in the past few days.

Ok, so what now? I know for a fact she is still attracted to me and has feelings, think I can get this one back? Im just doing my thing and hanging out with other women now, we have one or two mutual friends so im pretty sure she will find out that ive got several women wanting to date me/flirting with me etc. Logically that should drive her up the wall and make her see what she lost, but who knows.

 

[sav]

umm so let me get this straight...

a girl breaks up with you because she thinks you are cheating on her.. (her jealousy as you put it)

and

in turn you are out to make her even more jealous?

i just dont see the logic in this.. it seems to me that you are taking too much without giving anything back..

other then that.. maybe its best to stay away from a controlling psycho chick afterall.... ur call..

 

[KillingTime]

Well that's my dilemma lol, I really do like this one... aside from her jealousy she goes out of her way to be with me etc., really cool girl.

I know it sound crazy but from past experience when a girl is talking about "needing a bit of space", going along with them on it and letting them see that other women want you usually brings them crawling back. Then again ive never been with a jealous woman before so im a little clueless as to how she will react, I still think it's better than the usual "begging act" that most guys put on when they get dumped.

Not like im doing anything wrong, just going out and having some fun.. not even sleeping with anyone at this point. Technically she now has nothing to be jealous about since we aren't together, if it does drive her that crazy I figure she'll realize how much she cares about me and come back.

 

[KontrollerX]

She have a bad previous experience with a boyfriend that cheated on her or something to make her this jealous?

 

[KillingTime]

Yea she got cheated on really bad and never got over it

 

[Phyzzle]

It sounds like she already cheated on you. That's generally what makes women crazy-paranoid.

Edit:

Yea she got cheated on really bad and never got over it

Maybe not

I think you're doing the right thing. You can't just say, "oh I'll be loyal to someone who can't stand seeing me." Then you'd be crazy.

If you ever get back with her, agree to how much time you'll spend together. What's it going to be? Three times a week? Once a day on the phone? Just come to an agreement where you know how often you'll have to be on the phone to keep this relationship going. Being on the phone 10x a day just isn't convenient.

 

[KillingTime]

It sounds like she already cheated on you. That's generally what makes women crazy-paranoid.

Edit:
Maybe not

I think you're doing the right thing. You can't just say, "oh I'll be loyal to someone who can't stand seeing me." Then you'd be crazy.

If you ever get back with her, agree to how much time you'll spend together. What's it going to be? Three times a week? Once a day on the phone? Just come to an agreement where you know how often you'll have to be on the phone to keep this relationship going. Being on the phone 10x a day just isn't convenient.

No way she cheated, unless she was dating a deaf/mute guy since she was on the phone with me at practically every hour. If she does come back to me either she goes to therapy or no relationship, Im willing to help her out and stuff but your right there's gotta be some limits. I swear id even get calls in the middle of the night from her worried that i was with someone.

 

[Flyer]

damaged goods?

up to you. give her a call if you want.