"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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can her thinking you're a playa backfire, getting a lot of tests.

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they all say that if a woman suspects you have other girls in the pipeline and you're seeing but dont know for sure it increases your value and their attraction for you.

this woman is on me, great 1st date yesterday and she's been texting me today since i said 'you're welcome' after she thanked me.. she's testing me.. i know it.. she's tryna find out what i'm doing tonight to see if she has to worry or not.

shes at that age where she's ready to settle down i.e. 30+ can being a playa backfire on women like this who want something serious?

i understand her knowing other girls want me is good but not if i'm a 'playa' so to speak.

i think i answered the questions wrong, i told her i was going a halloween party but not got my costume yet. i didn't pay attention and forgot it was a test and shoulda been vague. it woulda sparked her interest if i didn't say anything other than 'yeah'. dont think it's a deal breaker though. maybe might help me if she thinks im a playa and wonders if im out with another girl tonight but im not i.e. going to a party like everyone else?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Some do, some don't.

I think it's far more important that they think you CAN have many other women than thinking you DO have many other women. Many women do not want to be the other woman. But to see you flirting and them responding does indeed stoke the fires.
 

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big weezy said:
they all say that if a woman suspects you have other girls in the pipeline and you're seeing but dont know for sure it increases your value and their attraction for you.

this woman is on me, great 1st date yesterday and she's been texting me today since i said 'you're welcome' after she thanked me.. she's testing me.. i know it.. she's tryna find out what i'm doing tonight to see if she has to worry or not.

shes at that age where she's ready to settle down i.e. 30+ can being a playa backfire on women like this who want something serious?

i understand her knowing other girls want me is good but not if i'm a 'playa' so to speak.

i think i answered the questions wrong, i told her i was going a halloween party but not got my costume yet. i didn't pay attention and forgot it was a test and shoulda been vague. it woulda sparked her interest if i didn't say anything other than 'yeah'. dont think it's a deal breaker though. maybe might help me if she thinks im a playa and wonders if im out with another girl tonight but im not i.e. going to a party like everyone else?

The problem with you is that everything is a game or a test. You need to relax. This isn't war.

And on a side note, stop texting these girls all day. That's your problem. You're obsessed with getting the approval of a woman.

Sorry I'm not answering your question...but I don't think that's the issue. The issue is the other stuff I mentioned.
 

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Iceberg said:
The problem with you is that everything is a game or a test. You need to relax. This isn't war.

And on a side note, stop texting these girls all day. That's your problem. You're obsessed with getting the approval of a woman.

Sorry I'm not answering your question...but I don't think that's the issue. The issue is the other stuff I mentioned.
im not texting her all day she's texting me! i dont want to be rude and not reply? she keeps asking me questions.. i know im not obliged but still.. i only sent 2-3 to reply to hers.. no questions, just answers.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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big weezy said:
im not texting her all day she's texting me! i dont want to be rude and not reply? she keeps asking me questions.. i know im not obliged but still.. i only sent 2-3 to reply to hers.. no questions, just answers.

Yes. Don't reply.

Going on a date with a woman is not an obligation to be glued to your phone all day.

What, are you guys married now?
 
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