Can explain to me why boundaries causes such an uproar here?

[zekko]

Like dating a party girl and telling her not to go to clubs, what will that do?

OF COURSE you would not take a party girl and tell her not to go to clubs. If you try to mold some clay, it at least has to be pliable. You don't take just any ho off the street and try to turn her into a housewife. You have to use your experience to know which girls are worth working with.

I've mentioned it before, and I'll say it again here. Three times in my life my girlfriends have snuggled up to me and told me "I love how you set guidelines for us". That is all the proof I need that women appreciate a man who displays caring and leadership by making sure boundaries are defined for both parties. A quality woman experiences this as caring, love, protection and security; not to mention personal inner strength and an ability to lead.

Exactly, a woman WANTS to benefit from your strength, wisdom, and leadership. That's the man's role. You can't effectively LEAD a relationship if all you ever use is covert communication.

A lot of this comes from PUA teaching that you should never answer a direct question, that you should always be evasive. Maybe that's good for picking up a ONS, I don't know. But in a real relationship you can't be afraid to overtly state which direction you are going in.

 

[nismo-4]

There has been a boundary of the OP to close this thread. So ordered.