I'm thinking my definition of clubs and bars is totally different from yours. you're thinking clubs and bars, everyone goes there to get fvcked. I think hook ups are one of the reasons people go there, but people generally go there for the umbrella reason taht clubs/bars are the premiere party spots for adults - they're like house parties for those in high school
here in LA, a LOT of birthdays for 20 somethings are celebrated in clubs and upscale bars, single or not. most of the cool venues I've been introduced to over the past couple years, if not through promoter friends, have been through social circle parties. I was at Pure in Vegas last weekend for a b-day party. nobody was trying to get fvcked, a lot of couples in the group - nobody had a problem. everyone just wanted to drink and enjoy chillin in a venue that's normally a pain in the ass to get in
girls nights out = hit up clubs or bars. reasons = dancing, drinking, not necessarily to get fvcked
unless they're boring prude girls, bachelorette parties are not sitting at home watching porn videos. if they're at a house or hotel room, then they'll probably have a stripper there, male or female, sometimes both. if not, they're going out to clubs or bars peacocking like crazy with tiaras shaped like dcks on their head. a lot of bachelorette parties in Southern CA involve the girls driving to Vegas, getting into some exclusive club over there and just partying. what would you tell your fiance? we're not getting married no more... because girls go to clubs to hook up, therefore I know you're going to vegas to cheat on me. your ass will get laughed at. even your friends will laugh at your ass because that's just so insecure it's ridiculous
this is the reality from the POV of someone who hits up clubs and bars every weekend
and my mentality with respect to LTR's is, you're not always gonna be there to watchdog your girl. if you cannot trust her when guys are hitting on her - I don't give a fvck if it's in a club/bar, in the mall, or at her work. if you can't trust her to the point you gotta make a big deal out of it and put her on lockdown, then your relationship already has issues. both of you guys should end it and learn to qualify to get that trust donw before you jump in an LTR