"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Can Buddhism be linked to this Self-Improvement?

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We are always talking about having a postive mind and finding happiness where ever life takes us. Buddhism is mainly the same thing...being nice to everyone, never harm live things etc.. Can the quest to Enlightment help us in the journey of becoming a DJ?

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Subscribing to some of the tenets, yes. But to emerge yourself fully in Buddhism would entail abdicating all superficial pleasures- including those of the flesh-, which are some of the goals of djism- unless I am mistaken and all you guys come here so you can learn to have meaningful conversations with women

I for one subsrcibe to some of Buddhism's ideals. Though I consider myself more Taoist than anything. Because in my opinion, Taoism is a lot less cynical than Buddhism...
 

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I follow a few of the philosophical tenets of Buddhism just to keep myself centered and in control of myself. Between that, Tai Chi, and the study of Psycho Cybernetics and Objectivism I feel very grounded and self assured. There is something to be said about having a balanced, healthy body, mind and soul. ;)
 

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I came across the same thing. All of the stuff I've been reading about living peacefully, living in the moment, appreciating everything around us and all of that, I realized that it all links to Zen Buddhism. I do follow a lot of these principles in life, even though I'm not a Buddhist.

I think it depends on who you are and what you want. If you became a monk, would that make you a DJ? If you believe in reincarnation or if you want to be enlightened, maybe. I don't know any monks, but they can't engage in sexual stuff or anything, so if that's what you want, then...I guess you're out of luck. Have you ever read the book "The Way of the Peaceful Warrior" by Dan Millman? It talks a lot about these kinds of things, and I think that it's a lot about Buddhism and applying it to life.

Not sure what I'm trying to say here, but I guess that there are some Buddhist principles are worth following, although I don't follow it full-on. I don't know...somehow it feels like dedicating myself to a specific religion will take away a lot of my freedom. I like to take what I like from different religions.

Oh yeah, and what is objectivism?
 

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Originally posted by October
Oh yeah, and what is objectivism?
The philosophy of Ayn Rand that the concept of man as a heroic being, with his own happiness as the moral purpose of his life, with productive achievement as his noblest activity, and reason as his only absolute.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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