Right now, I'm struggling with what I want to be when I grow up. I'm 26, college graduate, make less than $20,000 and was getting ready to go to law school but decided thats not the path I want to take but at the same time I'm unsure of what I want to do. Any books I can read to find some purpose and direction in my life so my girl can see me as full man. I have the game down pat accept for my career and finance area.....Thanks on any advice...
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Can anyone recommend me some books?
- Thread starter Analysis
- Start date
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Mr. Cardio
Banned
- Joined
- Aug 27, 2005
- Messages
- 268
- Reaction score
- 0
Hey I am no expert advisor or anything, I am new here, but I will tell you this right now, DONT DO IT FOR YOUR GIRL, DO IT FOR YOU!! Your girl should see you as a man regardless of your education, job, or whatever, she should still be attracted to you, you do it for you. Now you say you dont wanna go to be a lawyer no more? May I ask why? All this time and work and investment just to let it all go down the drain? Did somebody discourage you or say something bad about lawyers or are you afraid of something? Dude, I say be a lawyer, and my advise, look to get into ownin your own business as well, but remember, do it for you, not for your girl. If she is really your girl, it should not matter for her sakes....do what makes YOU happy.
libre
Don Juan
Top three interesting books
I suggest the following readings:
«The emotional intelligence» by Daniel Coleman.
«A road less travelled» by Scott Peck.
«The 48 laws of power» By a Mr. Spencer if I remember rightly. Somebody wrote these laws on the site about a month back. The book is extremely interesting and could save your ass in your lifetime.
Good reading
I suggest the following readings:
«The emotional intelligence» by Daniel Coleman.
«A road less travelled» by Scott Peck.
«The 48 laws of power» By a Mr. Spencer if I remember rightly. Somebody wrote these laws on the site about a month back. The book is extremely interesting and could save your ass in your lifetime.
Good reading
My girl doesn't say anything....She loves me regardless....It's more me...I don't discuss with her how I feel....This is something I deal with....If you read all the the stuff on the website...A woman likes a guy who has direction....I front like I do have direction but I really don't....I defered a year to make sure this is something I really want to do.....I talk to advisors, lawyers, law students and I realized it wasn't something I wanted to do....Initially, I went through the whole process because it seemed like a respectable profession...I even talk to a few counselors who told me that its good that I'm researching this now because they get alot of people who actually get their law degree and realize thats not what they want to do or students who finish their first quarter and realize this is not what they want to do for the rest of their life but they feel it is too late....I had several reasons for not going...1) I came to the realization that I don't want to be in law library researching stuff all day. 2) I want a 9-5 job....3) Salary of graduates from the law school is 35-40 starting out (Bottom Tier School)....I can get that now....I guess I feel if I'm going to do something and hate it then I want to make a lot of money and hate it...4) Debt would be 125,000....So, no law school would not make me happy...It's just that all my friend were going to grad school so I followed the herd.....Now, I just want to take time to think about life and what I really want....I'm doing what I love now, I just don't get paid jack....It's just a balance of doing something that I'm fitted for considering my talents and getting gettting a decent income for it...
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Sayajin_Prince
Don Juan
The 48 Laws Of Power - by Robert Green and Joost Elfers
The Prince - Machiavel
these books are a great read.
The Prince - Machiavel
these books are a great read.