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Can anyone give me a reason they would ever date a single mom?

DemFeeelz

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Can anyone give me a reason they would ever date a single mom because I can't think of ONE.
 

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Pump and dump/friend with benefits (the benefit being fvcking her pvssy) fair enough, would never properly date them though.
 

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LMFAO said:
Pump and dump/friend with benefits (the benefit being fvcking her pvssy) fair enough, would never properly date them though.
That's not even a good reason as you might get them pregnant the more times you hit it or if they sense you have money they might try to poke a hole in the condom.

They'll eventually try to get close for a daddy. You'd also have to avoid the kid (even though it's not their fault). I've even heard of dudes being claimed abusive to the kids if she get's pissed and calls the cops etc.

I seriously cannot think of one good reason except if you like taking care of other men's kids and possibly even being hooked for child support eventually yourself.

Single mom's should stick with single dads and even that's not good for them either as a lot of these single mom's make bad choices or have different kids by different fathers and God knows how many other dudes hit it as well.

No wonder abortion is so popular these days. Rather than taking responsibility for their own bad choices and or actions they can easily get rid of the "mistake" and avoid being a single mom reject.

I understand divorce etc. or people married and eventually it doesn't work out but I cannot think of a single good reason to ever get involved with one.

It's better adopting your own kid with your own wife etc.
 

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VikingKing said:
Single mothers are leeches.on society
A stupid comment to make. I know quite a few single mothers who work very had to support their kids. They aren't leeching of anybody. Sometimes things don't work out in relationships and people part ways. I myself, wouldn't date a single mom just for the reason of the kids being the biggest problem. Too much drama and hassle that goes along with it to enjoy dating. But a lot of people are dating single moms. When you think of it, most women over 30 are going to have kids. It's more than likely older men will date single mothers unless they manage to date younger women who have none.
 

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Embers84 said:
A stupid comment to make. I know quite a few single mothers who work very had to support their kids. They aren't leeching of anybody. Sometimes things don't work out in relationships and people part ways. I myself, wouldn't date a single mom just for the reason of the kids being the biggest problem. Too much drama and hassle that goes along with it to enjoy dating. But a lot of people are dating single moms. When you think of it, most women over 30 are going to have kids. It's more than likely older men will date single mothers unless they manage to date younger women who have none.
The exception is not the rule young man
 

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DemFeeelz said:
Can anyone give me a reason they would ever date a single mom because I can't think of ONE.
Yes. If you are significantly older, and/or if she is one of the prettiest girls you ever dated. When they are a single mom, you get an automatic one point upgrade (proportional to their declining options), and they are also a lot more reliable because they can't be out all night every night. I've dated single moms and you can enjoy a short-term family life with group dinners and movies. Treat the kids like gold though because you are making a substantial impression on them, and for daughters around a certain age (7-13) especially, the way you treat their mom instills their primary sense of romance. Don't be the one to give them daddy issues. I must admit, I fear being the third dad when she has 3 kids.
 

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Embers84 said:
A stupid comment to make. I know quite a few single mothers who work very had to support their kids. They aren't leeching of anybody. Sometimes things don't work out in relationships and people part ways. I myself, wouldn't date a single mom just for the reason of the kids being the biggest problem. Too much drama and hassle that goes along with it to enjoy dating. But a lot of people are dating single moms. When you think of it, most women over 30 are going to have kids. It's more than likely older men will date single mothers unless they manage to date younger women who have none.

Oh sh*t & if they don't that biologically clock/hypergammy will be on hyper drive. Watch out!
Thank god I didnt get my ex prego, knock on wood!
 

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I was secking one into this 40 year old mom of three kids up until recently. She was a fitness instructor. Prime figure. She had a lot of stamina and experience. Knew how to work it so to speak.

I was using her as a f.ck buddy in all honesty where I would flake on her constantly. I could tell she wanted a little more. She would text constantly especially fri / sat nights. I just ignored after a while. Wouldn't let up though.

Ah, the female mind eh!
 

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No. Plenty of women out there who haven't had a kid. Pvssy ain't the same if they had kid. Body too. Guess why Orlando dumped Miranda .
 

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DemFeeelz said:
Can anyone give me a reason they would ever date a single mom because I can't think of ONE.
Are you serious?

Just google "do not date single mothers".
 

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The best type of single moms are the ones without any kids.
 

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Sorry, I've spent over an hour thinking and can't find one reason.
 

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Now, I've never dated a single mum and don't really believe I am mentally mature enough to do so. But that surely isn't a reason to rule them out.
Sure, it's baggage of a sort, but everyone comes with some kind of baggage.
Dealing with hardships in life brings maturity and demands a level of responsibility.

I know a good looking, independent woman, with goals and a decent career who happens to be a single mum. I have no hesitation in saying that she is a quality woman that most men would do well to have a chance with.
 

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It can be tough dating single moms. The key is to not treat them any different then you would other women. Do not allow yourself to get sucked into the 'family' world. You are dating HER not her kids. Don't do "family dates", period.

I'm a single dad, so I understand a lot of the problems associated with dating because of family obligations. It's hard to keep your romantic life separate from your family life. But it can be done... it's a lot easier for men since we have the ability to compartmentalize our emotions, women have a harder time.
 

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RangerMIke said:
It can be tough dating single moms. The key is to not treat them any different then you would other women. Do not allow yourself to get sucked into the 'family' world. You are dating HER not her kids. Don't do "family dates", period.
Pretty much. Avoid even seeing the kids. I've had a single mum inviting me to her house where the kids live for sex. I thought even that was a step too far so i just flat out rejected it. She was even more hot for me and said let's get an hotel room for one night and she said she'll book it. Then she says she wants me to sleep over with her, I told her I'm not sure I can. She said fine and she paid for the hotel and invited me for a 3 hour sex session.
 

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I find it degrading to even think about. Being involved in bringing someone elses child up ?? Fvck that !!
 

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I can give you a couple

DemFeeelz said:
Can anyone give me a reason they would ever date a single mom because I can't think of ONE.
I'll bite. My GF is a single mom, and I'll tell you why that works for me. First, know that I am 45 and she is 40. If you are 28 the world looks quite different I am sure.

First, I have kids too. Mine are much older than hers, but I am still very active in their lives, and the life of my granddaughter. My 2nd wife didn't have kids and she never understood my priorities. In fact, she was even jealous of my kids at times. She could't possibly understand what "kids come first" means, because she never had any. Relating to another parent is much easier.

Next, my GF having kids gives her her own sh!t to do, and that works great for me because I don't want someone up my @ss all the time. I see her 1-3 times a week and that's perfect for me. And if I am in town, one of those times is a booty call right after she gets out of work but before she picks up her kids at daycare. About an hour of banging and she is out. Perfect.

Also, it helps me judge what kind of person/woman she is. She never, ever complains about her kids, or her situation. She has an MBA and a good job and is quite self sufficient. The way she manages her life tells me A LOT about her character. If she was a lousy parent, dumping the kids off with whomever she could to go out to bar, that would tell me a lot too. So it helps me screen.

Another plus - she ALWAYS comes to my house, (because her kids are home) which I like. We have dated 7mos, exclusive 4mos, and I have never stayed at her house or even eaten a meal there. So we are always on my turf, my stuff, my friends. I like it that way.

I should also add that I am her first BF (or even second date) in the 3.5yrs since her divorce. I am the only man her kids have ever met. Because she has screened so carefully, it makes her very grateful for me and the time we do spend together, because to her I am a very rare commodity.

Did I mention that she is tall, blonde, smoking hot and fvcks like a porn star?

All that being said, I am well aware of the pitfalls of dating a single mom. And even though she seems happy with the way we are now, at some point she may want me to take a more active role in the "family" life. But until then, it works for me. And h#ll, who knows, maybe by then I'll feel differently too.
 
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