Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That's not even a good reason as you might get them pregnant the more times you hit it or if they sense you have money they might try to poke a hole in the condom.LMFAO said:Pump and dump/friend with benefits (the benefit being fvcking her pvssy) fair enough, would never properly date them though.
A stupid comment to make. I know quite a few single mothers who work very had to support their kids. They aren't leeching of anybody. Sometimes things don't work out in relationships and people part ways. I myself, wouldn't date a single mom just for the reason of the kids being the biggest problem. Too much drama and hassle that goes along with it to enjoy dating. But a lot of people are dating single moms. When you think of it, most women over 30 are going to have kids. It's more than likely older men will date single mothers unless they manage to date younger women who have none.VikingKing said:Single mothers are leeches.on society
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
The exception is not the rule young manEmbers84 said:A stupid comment to make. I know quite a few single mothers who work very had to support their kids. They aren't leeching of anybody. Sometimes things don't work out in relationships and people part ways. I myself, wouldn't date a single mom just for the reason of the kids being the biggest problem. Too much drama and hassle that goes along with it to enjoy dating. But a lot of people are dating single moms. When you think of it, most women over 30 are going to have kids. It's more than likely older men will date single mothers unless they manage to date younger women who have none.
Yes. If you are significantly older, and/or if she is one of the prettiest girls you ever dated. When they are a single mom, you get an automatic one point upgrade (proportional to their declining options), and they are also a lot more reliable because they can't be out all night every night. I've dated single moms and you can enjoy a short-term family life with group dinners and movies. Treat the kids like gold though because you are making a substantial impression on them, and for daughters around a certain age (7-13) especially, the way you treat their mom instills their primary sense of romance. Don't be the one to give them daddy issues. I must admit, I fear being the third dad when she has 3 kids.DemFeeelz said:Can anyone give me a reason they would ever date a single mom because I can't think of ONE.
Embers84 said:A stupid comment to make. I know quite a few single mothers who work very had to support their kids. They aren't leeching of anybody. Sometimes things don't work out in relationships and people part ways. I myself, wouldn't date a single mom just for the reason of the kids being the biggest problem. Too much drama and hassle that goes along with it to enjoy dating. But a lot of people are dating single moms. When you think of it, most women over 30 are going to have kids. It's more than likely older men will date single mothers unless they manage to date younger women who have none.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Are you serious?DemFeeelz said:Can anyone give me a reason they would ever date a single mom because I can't think of ONE.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Pretty much. Avoid even seeing the kids. I've had a single mum inviting me to her house where the kids live for sex. I thought even that was a step too far so i just flat out rejected it. She was even more hot for me and said let's get an hotel room for one night and she said she'll book it. Then she says she wants me to sleep over with her, I told her I'm not sure I can. She said fine and she paid for the hotel and invited me for a 3 hour sex session.RangerMIke said:It can be tough dating single moms. The key is to not treat them any different then you would other women. Do not allow yourself to get sucked into the 'family' world. You are dating HER not her kids. Don't do "family dates", period.
I'll bite. My GF is a single mom, and I'll tell you why that works for me. First, know that I am 45 and she is 40. If you are 28 the world looks quite different I am sure.DemFeeelz said:Can anyone give me a reason they would ever date a single mom because I can't think of ONE.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.