"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Can a man with limited sexual experience please a woman with lots?

mr. kennedy

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My buddy slept with 1 chick (I believe they banged a few times) and is hooking up with a woman who has been with 20 different guys according to her friend. I told my buddy to avoid embarrassment and not go through with it. They have the same circle of friends.

Can a guy with such little sexual experience actually please such a woman?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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mr. kennedy said:
My buddy slept with 1 chick (I believe they banged a few times) and is hooking up with a woman who has been with 20 different guys according to her friend. I told my buddy to avoid embarrassment and not go through with it. They have the same circle of friends.

Can a guy with such little sexual experience actually please such a woman?
Probably not. She's a regular at the c@ck carousel which means she's seen some sh!t.

More importantly why would your friend want to "please" a slut? It's time mismanagement. Pump and dump only.
 

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It's not really about skill per se. Sex is very natural.

It's more a question of, "Would he be aggressive (ie rough) enough for her taste?" Probably not.

But it's a fling anyway, so just bang her and don't worry about it. Just wrap it up.
 

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Bang away and get the experience. He knows she's a pig, so there should be no pressure or oneitis down the road.

Get dirty...filthy dirty....finger her a$$hole, dump your goo in her mouth, 4 fingers up her clam, etc....
 

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Tell him to 100% go through with it. Fake it till you make it, boyeee! Tell him to think he's a porn star that banged 3,000 women and really give her some big time Chewbacca, dirty, raw monkey sex.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The problem is (from what I could figure out) he sees her as a GF not a ONS. And apparently she's sick and tired of *******s and wants to settle down.

I can't see how this works. If he sucks, this could mentally scare him for a long time. I remember having a bad sexual experience and it took me a while to recover.
 

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YES THEY CAN.

There is no doubt in my mind about that. Why?

I am a female who has slept with 4 men in her life. Three of those were virgins. One of them was so gifted at fingering his ex that she argued with him because was convinced that he had previous experience. I believe him. He's a naturally sexually skilled man because he "listens to my responses" when he touches me.

A lot of men here will call bs and tell me he's been with 100+ girls. Whatever. Cool. But however sexually experienced or inexperienced you are, if you listen to her responses - when she moans, makes positive signs - do that **** MORE. If you do that, how could you even go wrong?
 

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She's been with 20+ guys, she's not GF material, she's a depository for goo. Lots of goo!
 

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Halcyonique:
One of them was so gifted at fingering his ex that she argued with him because was convinced that he had previous experience. I believe him. He's a naturally sexually skilled man because he "listens to my responses" when he touches me.

A lot of men here will call bs and tell me he's been with 100+ girls. Whatever. Cool.
Or he may have studied a lot of porn, particularly femme-centric erotica with bisexual “lesbians.” Forget the scripted stories, contrived lines, bad acting, lousy wardrobe department, porn can teach good technique.
 

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Deep Dish said:
Or he may have studied a lot of porn, particularly femme-centric erotica with bisexual “lesbians.” Forget the scripted stories, contrived lines, bad acting, lousy wardrobe department, porn can teach good technique.
The potential downside with studying porn for your sex life, is that different technique suits different people, and what some people find pleasurable, others do not. You might hit jackpot with what you learn from porn, but just as well you might not.. It's riskier so it's generally the most reliable to go by the woman at hand, and go by her immediate reactions to what you're doing.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Halcyonique said:
The potential downside with studying porn for your sex life, is that different technique suits different people, and what some people find pleasurable, others do not.
There's some things that are generally universal. Find me a woman who didn't enjoy a little bit of pain during sex. Find me a woman who doesn't like a man doing a good job at eating her pu55y. Find me a woman who doesn't enjoy basic sex.

Those are very basic things women generally like. Sticking things up her ass, tying her up, or fisting her are matters of taste. They're things that get added to sex to make it more interesting.

My mother pulled me out of sex ed class in high school. I learned what sex was from the porno tapes my cousin gave me when I was 15. I've never had any complaints.
 

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Desdinova said:
There's some things that are generally universal. Find me a woman who didn't enjoy a little bit of pain during sex. Find me a woman who doesn't like a man doing a good job at eating her pu55y. Find me a woman who doesn't enjoy basic sex.

Those are very basic things women generally like. Sticking things up her ass, tying her up, or fisting her are matters of taste. They're things that get added to sex to make it more interesting.

My mother pulled me out of sex ed class in high school. I learned what sex was from the porno tapes my cousin gave me when I was 15. I've never had any complaints.
Well the things you mentioned are subjective - some women do like pain, some women don't (and all the variables on the spectrum of pain would need to be taken into account there). "A good job" at eating ***** is also subjective depending on many things, such as the sensitivity of her *****: one mans roughness that turns girl #1 on, may be too rough for girl #2, which is why it's good to rely on her responses and take it from there.
 

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My first time was with a 42 yr old milf and she became my LTR...so yes as long as you put the effort in and don't hold back your mate will be fine.
 

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The OP told him not to go through with it? He shouldn't get experience because he doesn't have enough experience?

Also, 20 guys is (sad but true) normal if she is hot and age 20+.

Now, chances are she is hot and he isn't but that's beside the point. If she wants to he should.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Can you eat pvssy? Last longer than 10-15 minutes? Hold yourself up in the push up position for a long time? Then you got a shot.

Any sexual person can be pleased. You just need the basics, some connection with her, and passion.
 

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Halcyonique said:
Well the things you mentioned are subjective - some women do like pain, some women don't
Every woman I've slept with has enjoyed some form of pain.

"A good job" at eating ***** is also subjective depending on many things, such as the sensitivity of her *****:
With the exception of one woman, every woman I've been with has enjoyed it when I feasted upon her pie.

one mans roughness that turns girl #1 on, may be too rough for girl #2, which is why it's good to rely on her responses and take it from there.
Agreed, but you have to start somewhere and find her limits. You can't just choke her and slap the 5hit out of her from the get-go. I'm saying that the minimal amounts of these activities are pleasing to nearly every woman.
 

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Any man concerned about "pleasing" a woman sexually is already in full blown beta faggot territory. Sex is for the man. Women want love, control, commitment and kids.

Women overly concerned with a man's bedroom skills have usually seen more sausage then a deli anyway :crackup: :crackup:

There is no reason for a man to EVER worry about being "good in bed". The sex is for YOU not her. She should be pleasing you and you should be dominating her. End of story.
 

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Being good in the sack takes care of a lot of other problems when it comes to dating or relationships.

Listen to a woman talk about an ex boyfriend who didnt care if she got off, or pay attention to her body in bed after she's gotten some fantastic sex from a new guy. She will never sound happier. Obviously you want to be in control and uninhibited...but it's not beta to want her to get off.
 

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jeffreylebowski said:
Being good in the sack takes care of a lot of other problems when it comes to dating or relationships.

Listen to a woman talk about an ex boyfriend who didnt care if she got off, or pay attention to her body in bed after she's gotten some fantastic sex from a new guy. She will never sound happier. Obviously you want to be in control and uninhibited...but it's not beta to want her to get off.
Sure.. once she has demonstrated loyalty and value its perfectly fine to be generous and giving to a woman. But lots of guys based their entire manhood on their ability to make a woman orgasm. :crazy:

Since different women have different sexual preferences... its idiotic to give any one woman's opinion or preference too much weight. But most men do.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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