Can a girl really be too busy?

[Brandonc662]

Can a girl really be too busy to hang out? I met a girl I like and she is different from my other plates, she is hard to read. I've hung out with her 3 times in the last 3 weeks. It's strange because I got the make out the first night but after 3 meetings it has not went any further, but I haven't tried becuse I'm not sure how into me she is. I'm used to having sex with a girl the first or second night of seeing them.

Well, anyways she told me she was too busy to hang out this week because of work and school (it is finals week). I understand people can get busy but I also think if you really like someone you would want to make time for them. She did say after this week she would have more time to kick it with me. I don't know what do you guys think? Can a girl just have too much going on or is her interest low? I can go into more detail if needed. Thanks.

 

[LoneWolf]

last girl i was with was like that. she was really really busy and i could see she had to squeeze me in your busy life style. i didn't like it much cause we only spoke once a week and saw each other once/twice a week. sometimes (toward the end of the relationship) she would cancel or be busy to catch up. was fun while it lasted though... don't waste your time and energy on these girls, trust me. keep her on the low list but spin more plates.

 

[handle]

Usually, if she cares she'll shuffle her schedule around. However, I will say this: I don't make any plans during finals week myself. I blow off everyone so I can focus on school. So while it seems like she's flakey maybe wait until finals are over before you make a judgement call.

 

[JustLurk]

(it is finals week).

Indeed.

I understand people can get busy but I also think if you really like someone you would want to make time for them.

On finals week? Really?

She did say after this week she would have more time to kick it with me.

Wait and see.

 

[f283000]

Do you really have to ask her out during finals week? If you know someone is going to be busy during a certain period of time YOU HAVE TO SHOW THAT YOU'RE BUSY ENOUGH also to not be beggin to see them when they're the most busiest.

It just doesn't look good for you when you couldn't wait a little bit to see her after that busy period of time in her life. It makes you seem a bit needy.

The same would apply if you were going to be super busy for a week working on a project and she kept buggin you to see her. Most people would be thinking "don't you have a life of your own don't you see i'm busy?" and i'm sure that's how she probably felt (and most people would feel).

Because she turned you down for being "busy" that automatically lowered your value compared to hers. You don't want to put yourself in situations like that.

Gotta know when to give people their space and time.

 

[DonGorgon]

women are only too busy for guys they dont like..

 

[DJDamage]

women are only too busy for guys they dont like..

Bingo.

There is no such thing for a woman to be "too busy", if they really like you then they will find the time.

Usually when a woman utters the "Im too busy" line it means that she is either too busy for you, or too busy fvcking another guy.

 

[Sabol]

women are only too busy for guys they dont like..

They might actually be busy with something. But if they propose a reschedule, then you know that their interest level is high.

 

[ArcBound]

It's strange because I got the make out the first night but after 3 meetings it has not went any further, but I haven't tried becuse I'm not sure how into me she is.

I highlighted this part because it is the most important. You went on three consecutive dates and haven't tried to escalate or do anything else because you aren't sure what her interest level is. That's where you messed up.

On top of that she has finals, which can be brutal depending on the classes/school.

So her choice is hangout with a guy, who for the last 3 dates has not done anything with her or study for her finals which is important for her GPA and possibly future.

 

[mahoney]

problem with dudes is they expect a girl to drop everything for them the minute they meet them - don't really know why dudes actually want this (apart from the fact they are too clingy and needy and seem to want the same thing in a girl)

such a bad look to drop everything for another person. being busy is good, means you got an interesting and exciting person

 

[GameTime76]

Here is my two cents...

Can a girl really be too busy to hang out? I met a girl I like and she is different from my other plates, she is hard to read. I've hung out with her 3 times in the last 3 weeks. It's strange because I got the make out the first night but after 3 meetings it has not went any further, but I haven't tried becuse I'm not sure how into me she is.

You cant read peoples minds. You just have to be confident and go for it. If she let you kiss her the first time she will most likely let you do it the 2nd or 3rd time. Hesitation will kill you! And if she doesnt let you.. Then you pretty much know where her Interest Level is.


I'm used to having sex with a girl the first or second night of seeing them.

What kind of girls are you meeting?

Well, anyways she told me she was too busy to hang out this week because of work and school (it is finals week). I understand people can get busy but I also think if you really like someone you would want to make time for them. She did say after this week she would have more time to kick it with me. I don't know what do you guys think? Can a girl just have too much going on or is her interest low? I can go into more detail if needed. Thanks.

You could give her the benefit of the dought. But I wouldnt count on anything. I'd wait for her to call you. If she does she is interested. If she doesnt, move on.

 

[Brandonc662]

Well since it was asked over fifty percent of the girls I meet are from social networking sites. I'm a pretty good looking guy and have an attractive personality so usually befor meeting the girls I have ther attraction and comfort so it does not take long for me to get physical. It works for me.

Now I was asking this question because I was thinking if a girl I was really attracted to wanted to hang out with me I'm sure I could fit her into my schedule no matter how busy I was.

I did ask her on Sat when she called me if she wad wanting to hang out the next day which was Sunday because that's been the day of two of our three meetings as well as the best day for her free time. She said she was busy but also said after this week of finals she would have more spare time. I said that was cool and told her to just get ahold of me another time. I don't see this as begging or bugging her but could be if I handled it like a social retard.

Now for the update, she calls me tonight and tells me she took the week off work. I tell her that I'm glad she can have the free time to study then she asks me to come to her house tomorrow evening and hang out with her. I said I would and she then is talking my head off on the phone for 45 min until I tell her I have to go.

So to answer the question I asked I only needed to wait a day to know if a girl is interested in a guy enough she is never too busy.

 

[LoneWolf]

someones gonna get lucky!

 

[Brandonc662]

You cant read peoples minds. You just have to be confident and go for it. If she let you kiss her the first time she will most likely let you do it the 2nd or 3rd time. Hesitation will kill you! And if she doesnt let you.. Then you pretty much know where her Interest Level is.

To clear up this misunderstanding I did also make out with her the other times. I ment I did not go for more then that the 2nd or 3rd time. Like I said she was a hard read, which I'm usually great at, so being fifty/fifty on rather she was comfortable with having sex I chose to not escalate and become to pushy because this girl is a good catch that could turn into more then the usual pump and dump I am used to. Maybe this was the wrong move but I plan on escalating it further tomorrow. I feel it's time to go hard or go home on a fourth "date". I put date in quotations because all three times we have hung out at her home. I have not invested a penny into this girl (or with any other girl I'm not ****ing for awhile). She has cooked for me. Used her gas not mine. Ect....

 

[r0cky]

but I haven't tried becuse I'm not sure how into me she is

Assume that she is.

 

[Fuglydude]

women are only too busy for guys they dont like..

This is a good post.

My fiance just finished her figure comp last week... she was training for that, (that's 10-15 hours a week in the gym + 5-6 carefully planned meals every day for 16 weeks), running a part time photography business, picking up modeling gigs 1-2 times a week, studying for an correspondence nutrition course and planning our wedding. All that while working full time.

I generally work 50-60 hour weeks and do shift work. She'd still try her best to rearrange her schedule just so she could spend more time with me, even if it meant making things inconvenient for herself to just see me for half an hour before I left for a night shift.

If a girl is truly interested in you she will make some way to see you.

 

[PapiChulo]

I am surprised that the OP should even ask this question at the first place.