"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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***Can’t stop fantasizing about her? You need to read this!***

Naughty Ninja

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We’ve ALL done it. The perfect fantasy chick we’ve all known but somehow never wound up with. This dudes article from girlschase is DJ Bible worthy. If you’ve never read the DJ Bible. You at least need to read the below linked article.



http://www.girlschase.com/content/cant-stop-thinking-about-her-heres-why-you-need-meet-more-girls

Dudes who come to SS and are worried about some chick they are fantasizing and pining over need to be directed to this thread and the link to the article. **Then again most will read it and go right back into fantasy mode as the fantasy may be better than the actual reality of their situation.
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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VladPatton

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Thing is, most charming, smooth, suave guys don't get obsessed, and most guys who get obsessed aren't charming, smooth, or suave -- and quite often the reason why they're so obsessed is because the girl doesn't feel the same way and they aren't together.

Very true!
 

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Great great article. Just what I needed. Applies to a whole lot of other things besides women, too. Time to step my game up!
 

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Yep. I've done that a few times in my life. Failed to act as I had doubts about myself for reasons I didn't want to admit or work on. Same things that we all think about at times. IE: (Live at home, car's not the best, not as "good looking" as dudes she's dated, maybe not going to be the "best" lover etc.) Perhaps living the fantasy is better than finding out the reality for some dudes.

Which leads into this article on that site...

Attraction Has an Expiration Date

http://www.girlschase.com/content/attraction-has-expiration-date
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Naughty Ninja said:
Yep. I've done that a few times in my life. Failed to act as I had doubts about myself for reasons I didn't want to admit or work on. Same things that we all think about at times. IE: (Live at home, car's not the best, not as "good looking" as dudes she's dated, maybe not going to be the "best" lover etc.) Perhaps living the fantasy is better than finding out the reality for some dudes.

Which leads into this article on that site...

Attraction Has an Expiration Date

http://www.girlschase.com/content/attraction-has-expiration-date
hence why not making a move is the worst move you could ever make
 

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I don't so much fantasize and idealize as I kick my @ss over sure thing hot lays that I screwed up. I'm like the anti-romantic that way: I'll be tangled up for days lamenting missed sex, even in the midst of other lays. I wish there was an article for that.
 
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