"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Came close to gettin scammed on kijiji (long)

muffin

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I'm from Canada and am looking to upgrade my digital camera so I posted some ads on a couple online sites. Within 12 hours I get a response to my kijiji add from an eager buyer who claims to be from the U.K.

They don't try to negotiate the price, this should have been a "red flag" but I figured maybe this was do to the declining Canadian dollar. So anyway, the buyer asks for my (Paypal) info to pay me and requests express shipping.

I get an email that is supposed to be from (Paypal) very professional looking with Paypal letterhead and all stating that I cannot receive my funds until I provide a tracking number. So I go and spend $80 on express shipping and email them a tracking number.

This is where things get a little fishy. This is my 1st time using paypal to receive funds so I assumed that I should have my money immediately. I don't get it so I email the buyer.

About 30 mins later I get an email from what looks to be paypal saying that I should receive my money momentarily and a number is provided to verify the transaction. The number happens to start with a foreign are code which leads me to make some inquiries as I assume Paypal would always have a 1 800 #

It turns out my gut instinct was right. I contact Paypal and they have no record of the transaction or the sender. I immediately contact Fedex and stop the shipping. I then give the buyer 1 last chance to prove that they are 4 real and tell them all the info and inquiries I have made.

They email me back within 10 mins and assure me that a Paypal representative will phone me to confirm the payment. In the meantime I decided to go back into my inbox and take a look at some 100% authentic emails that I had received from them.

I notice quite a few discrepancies that if anyone is interested in knowing about I will gladly share. But basically the thing that led me to realize I was being had was that the emails that supposedly were verifying my payment fro Paypal came from a (Gmail) account with a Nigerian sounding name

Most would probably overlook this but I happen to have Nigerian inlaws and am fully aware of the global scams that they pull. At this point my phone rings. Me "hello" (on the other end in thick African accent) "hello, this is Paypal"

I say " thanks for calling, please give me your Id # and a direct line that I can return your call to verify that you are who you say u are" I get a click and the line goes dead. I'm happy I'm not going to lose out on my camera but it looks like the $80 shipping cost is gone.

Take this as a lesson fellow DJ's and if anyone has had a similar experience I'd like to hear about it and discuss ways we can avoid these types of scams
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DarkShade

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lol they actually called you and said "This is Paypal..." Priceless...

Sorry you are out $80 but that's cheap compared to not learning how these thieves get away with this stuff. You'll be careful in the future and you'll be more prosperous because of it
 
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