Came back with some improvements and questions

[moneyisking]

It has been about a week in my continuing effort to become good with and confident with women, and I made some improvements.

First of all, I decided that although looks can't be helped, but appearance can; you can't change what you are born to look like, but you can change how you appear, so I decided to dress with more style, invest time to find better hairstyle, wearing cologne, and I think mother nature appreciates men who put effort and gives little honey drops back. So developing appearance is ongoing thing.

Also I talked to hell of a lot women than I would have in a month or two in barely a week. I still cannot do cold approaches where I chat up and hit on a total stranger but I started to force myself to talk to girls that share common grounds with me to start a convo (like same class, seeing at the gym, if had same class before, etc) and it begins to get much easier.

Now a question I want to ask you guys: so it still feels little "weird" when I talk to girls that I am sexually interested. It feels just little uneasy with covert nervousness but I can just feel it and prevents the best of me. How did you guys handle it until you became totally comfortable talking to girls you were sexually attracted and confidently gaming them? Because man, some girls throw curve balls and I can tell they are just sh!t-testing and gaming on down-low level.

I keep reading DJ bible and keep talking to girls, but I would like to get that confidence and comfort so I can feel easy even when I am being sexual with them. Anyways, lots of improvements but more steps to cover, and I will appreciate your advice! thank you!

 

[YAboi]

good job

 

[moneyisking]

thanks... guess people are too busy giving back answers.

 

[Kbomb]

You just need experience. You need to be able to see these women, esp beautiful women as human beings, which you probably cant do at the moment because your penis is thinking for you.

Just keep at it. Keep talking to them. Get in the friendzone with an attractive woman. Joke around and learn to be yourself around these women.

 

[Uncharted]

Nice work - there's no rush as long as you are making progress.

Last week I was at a ****tail hour meet-and-greet for class and I didn't want to go because I normally hate those things. I figured I would try a "no-care" attitude and I had the best time. Also got some numbers!

It gets easier!

 

[NewAndImproved]

Flirt with ALL women. I used to take myself way too seriously. I would only try (and fail miserably) to hit on chicks I was really attracted to. That's probably why it's still awkward.

LOWER THE BAR.

Practice your witty banter with everyone.

I'm far from a natural now but I'm way better. Didn't realize how quick on my feet I could be.

I tried my more extreme lines/attitudes first with 5, 6 and 7s and then graduated to the 8+s. But it's only by lowering the bar and not taking myself too seriously.

 

[moneyisking]

lowering the bar... man that could be a bit of challenge, but what gets me to progress! thank you