blackbelt2k
Senior Don Juan
anyone have a good way to rub out the caluses from lifting.. When i lift heavy, the only skin rips off, along with the new skin. Someone recommended i shave them down, but how exactly do i do that?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Use a pumice stone. 2-3 times a week after your training. Don't go to hard, just the top of the callus.blackbelt2k said:anyone have a good way to rub out the caluses from lifting.. When i lift heavy, the only skin rips off, along with the new skin. Someone recommended i shave them down, but how exactly do i do that?
Thanks strong..yea, i've been using chalk, im almost out thoughstronglifts said:Use a pumice stone. 2-3 times a week after your training. Don't go to hard, just the top of the callus.
Next learn to grip your bar correctly.
The bar should be close to your fingers, not in the middle of your hand. Check the picture in the middle of the page of this article: How to Perform the Deadlift With Proper Technique
Also try chalk.
Good question btw, should be a sticky.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
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You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Why do you care if other people wear gloves? My gym doesn't allow chalk, I sweat like a beast, and I wear gloves when I do weighted pullups and deadlifts. I don't understand what is so macho about having callouses, I'd rather not have hunks of hardened skin and blood blisters constantly peeling off my hands.Espi said:Even though women complained, I really liked seeing and feeling my callouses; they confirmed the hard work I was putting in at the gym. Unfortunately, they went away after a few years of lifting, I guess my body adjusted.
Wear gloves if you must; I personally hate them, and I hate seeing guys wearing them, too, even though they afford a better grip.
The problem with gloves:Slone said:My gym doesn't allow chalk, I sweat like a beast, and I wear gloves when I do weighted pullups and deadlifts. I don't understand what is so macho about having callouses, I'd rather not have hunks of hardened skin and blood blisters constantly peeling off my hands.
Don't you mean straps, not gloves?blackbelt2k said:well as the guy at my gym put it, your cheating yourself by lifting heavy with gloves. You won't develop your grip strength.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
yes, sorry about that, i mean strapsQuiksilver said:Don't you mean straps, not gloves?
I think i'd be cheating my back NOT using gloves(straps) because my grip has always given out way before my back does on any exercise. I only use straps on the heaviest set of the day, though. I'm not goign to deadlift 340 today when i could be doing 380 with straps.blackbelt2k said:well as the guy at my gym put it, your cheating yourself by lifting heavy with gloves. You won't develop your grip strength.
mrRuckus said:I think i'd be cheating my back NOT using gloves(straps) because my grip has always given out way before my back does on any exercise. I only use straps on the heaviest set of the day, though. I'm not goign to deadlift 340 today when i could be doing 380 with straps.
Poo on my grip if it's at the expense of my back. I want a big, strong back. No one takes pictures of my forearms and sends them to their girl friends while i'm asleep. Yeah a girl did this to me by sending her friends pictures of my back from her cell when i was sleeping on my stomach without a shirt. Talk about motivation to keep it up after reading their responses when she admitted it to me a few weeks later...
As far as gloves.. i haven't done that in a long time but i have used them for benching before since my gym has no chalk and my hands get really sweaty on a real hot day and start to slide out-ward on the bar midset. The gloves keep them from sliding. I don't think they help on any other lifts because a thinner bar is easier to hold than a thick bar and gloves just make it thicker.
Why is "out-ward" without a hyphen censored?
These are the only legitimate arguments against gloves I've seen so far. The thickness difference never bothers me, I don't get any skin problems, and I lift for strength, size, and basketball, not powerlifting competitions. If I'm sweaty and I don't use gloves for pullups/chinups, I slide right off the metal bar in my gym. I don't think anyone should feel discouraged against using gloves.stronglifts said:The problem with gloves:
-the bar becomes thicker. You've got something between the bar & your hand. Those who have trained with fat bars know what I'm talking about
-it leads to other problems. Eczema's from sweating & wearing gloves. Maybe you're not prone to it, but many do.
-it's not allowed in competitions. better to build good habits, you never know.