Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Calls me a bit controlling I bail

mrRuckus

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This is just another one of those things that there's no point defending. Guys spend way too much time on the defensive.

"You're controlling."
'Okay?' *go flirt with other girls and let her become the one flipping out*

"You're controlling."
'And?'
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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mrRuckus said:
This is just another one of those things that there's no point defending. Guys spend way too much time on the defensive.

"You're controlling."
'Okay?' *go flirt with other girls and let her become the one flipping out*

"You're controlling."
'And?'

Oh I put it on her this week. After a ridiculous argument, more just noncommunication, as I could care less about this dude, it is the point on hand, anyways she ignored me for a bit and then I ignored her back, well in 90 mins she did not hear from me she mentioned getting her things in the morning...So we spoke or argued a bit later, and when she got home from work I had dropped her stuff off at her house. She called me immediately in a panic..haha....
I turned the tables on her powerplay, I told her if she asks for her things back she is gonna get them back and I will be gone. She learned a lesson.

Also, we went out to dinner yest, had a very fun and great day, but the waitress was loving me so I became sweeter to the waitress each time she came around just to be funny and rub it in.....I got a good response out of her, she knows Im a good catch and can receive that attention if I want it.

Its not games, its more of me making my case that although I respect her and hold her high, treat her great, I am a man, the man in this relationship and I won't be disrespected by being ignored or threatened.

We are closer for this. a 7 month obstacle, at this point we are truly getting to know one another and I am setting the boundaries about my convictions , morals and expectations.

damn girls are tough to deal with though.
 
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