Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Not at all in fact it makes you look bvtturt. The only time "calling chicks out" helps is if she's interested in the first place and you'd hardly have to worry about needing to "call them out" regardless.pete101 said:does calling HBs out on non replies to meet ups and on replies to trivial stuff helpful in restoring the power balance slightly?
You answered your own question in red. Two strikes means nothing if she isn't interested nor will twenty strikes matter. If she was interested having a BF wouldn't matter either.pete101 said:this HB i went out with once who i thought was little interested in me suddenly went cold a few days later (i was too keen, must have scared her off) i applied the 2 strikes rule she completely ignores my suggestions to meet up which tells me she either has a bf now or isn't interested or both..it was all a bit afc tbh, i suspected attention wh0ring but tbh she's blunt in her responses to other non meet up stuff, no follow on questions etc.. i suspect not and just being a good gf, or plain not interested.
She doesn't want to go out with you. What're you going to call her out on? If you came off like a thirsty dude for her which I'm sure is the case by your thread "calling her out" is only going to push the chick even further away and may wind up having her tell her friends you are a stalker. If you shot yourself in the foot with one chick don't try to go for the hat trick and look like the towns desperate stage 5 clinger. Drop it.pete101 said:can i call her out on her non responses to my meet up texts?
Again drop it. Meet new chicks. Learn from whatever mistakes you made. EVEN IF you meet new ones and she sees you with them while out don't fall into the same chick using you just to then get an ego boost to see if she can get you under her spell again for simply her own gratification. Chicks WILL play that game not wanting anything to do with you but for their own ego since she'd have seen you "moved on".pete101 said:i've given up now but i know i'll bump into her on the weekends as we live in the same area so it's inevitable and i dont want the awkward beef (i know i'll be polite and ignore her, right now she suspects i'm still pursuing actively)
Translation: "Thanks" Mr. Nice guy. I'LL go check it out. NOT US.pete101 said:my last text i've sent was a suggestion for her to go somewhere the other side of town to go sailing (she loves sailing and misses it from back home)
she's replied with 'i appreciate that, i'll definitely check it out!'
Tourist guide? LMFAO. Dude you'd be a desperate stalker.pete101 said:see im not gona be a tourist guide but i am thinking of sending back 'i was gona take u there at some point but u haven't been forthcoming with my suggestions to meet which tells me 1)u have a bf or 2)you're not interested..1) i can understand 2) i cannot!haha.. so i'll pass, you're on your own sunshine!
also a trip to the zoo and to the animal shelter to help me pick a dog (im looking to adopt)']
The effect it will have is her knowing full well you are trying to bribe her with a guilt trip which is typical "Nice guy" pathetic phaggotry. She may bypass the boyfriend line and go with a worse line: "I'm filing a restraining order with the police."pete101 said:the last bit is to guilt trip her cos i know she loves animals so tryna make her feel she's missing out. i dont think i've been too arrogant.. mainly C+F stuff.
what kind of effect will this have?
i suspect i may get a text back saying 'that's fine i'll just go with my bf!' to shut me up.. so im anticipating the worst.. i just want to readdress the balance when i bump into her again.. i know how to behave.. ignore. easy.