"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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calling them out on their non replying to meets?

pete101

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does calling HBs out on non replies to meet ups and on replies to trivial stuff helpful in restoring the power balance slightly?
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You don't do anything anymore, you chased her and she has the upper hand. Stop caring, and when you do bump into her you then lay it on thick as to what you were doing, then promptly say goodbye and jet. You tried, she denied. Time to move on.
 

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pete101 said:
does calling HBs out on non replies to meet ups and on replies to trivial stuff helpful in restoring the power balance slightly?
Not at all in fact it makes you look bvtturt. The only time "calling chicks out" helps is if she's interested in the first place and you'd hardly have to worry about needing to "call them out" regardless.

pete101 said:
this HB i went out with once who i thought was little interested in me suddenly went cold a few days later (i was too keen, must have scared her off) i applied the 2 strikes rule she completely ignores my suggestions to meet up which tells me she either has a bf now or isn't interested or both..it was all a bit afc tbh, i suspected attention wh0ring but tbh she's blunt in her responses to other non meet up stuff, no follow on questions etc.. i suspect not and just being a good gf, or plain not interested.
You answered your own question in red. Two strikes means nothing if she isn't interested nor will twenty strikes matter. If she was interested having a BF wouldn't matter either.

pete101 said:
can i call her out on her non responses to my meet up texts?
She doesn't want to go out with you. What're you going to call her out on? If you came off like a thirsty dude for her which I'm sure is the case by your thread "calling her out" is only going to push the chick even further away and may wind up having her tell her friends you are a stalker. If you shot yourself in the foot with one chick don't try to go for the hat trick and look like the towns desperate stage 5 clinger. Drop it.

pete101 said:
i've given up now but i know i'll bump into her on the weekends as we live in the same area so it's inevitable and i dont want the awkward beef (i know i'll be polite and ignore her, right now she suspects i'm still pursuing actively)
Again drop it. Meet new chicks. Learn from whatever mistakes you made. EVEN IF you meet new ones and she sees you with them while out don't fall into the same chick using you just to then get an ego boost to see if she can get you under her spell again for simply her own gratification. Chicks WILL play that game not wanting anything to do with you but for their own ego since she'd have seen you "moved on".

pete101 said:
my last text i've sent was a suggestion for her to go somewhere the other side of town to go sailing (she loves sailing and misses it from back home)

she's replied with 'i appreciate that, i'll definitely check it out!'
Translation: "Thanks" Mr. Nice guy. I'LL go check it out. NOT US.

Need any more hints?


pete101 said:
see im not gona be a tourist guide but i am thinking of sending back 'i was gona take u there at some point but u haven't been forthcoming with my suggestions to meet which tells me 1)u have a bf or 2)you're not interested..1) i can understand 2) i cannot! :D haha.. so i'll pass, you're on your own sunshine! :p also a trip to the zoo and to the animal shelter to help me pick a dog (im looking to adopt)']
Tourist guide? LMFAO. Dude you'd be a desperate stalker.

You trying to "Bribe" her like a "nice guy" with trips to the Zoo because she likes animals? Using a "trip to the animal shelter to pick up a cute puppy" to bribe her with her love of pets? You think a chick who doesn't want anything to do with you is buying that nonsense? Then telling her "you'll pass?!" LMAO Pete that's going full blown PATHETIC.

(If you don't like my bribe I'm going to go away now! Riighto.) What's next? You text her telling her you're holding your breath till she texts you back?


pete101 said:
the last bit is to guilt trip her cos i know she loves animals so tryna make her feel she's missing out. i dont think i've been too arrogant.. mainly C+F stuff.

what kind of effect will this have?

i suspect i may get a text back saying 'that's fine i'll just go with my bf!' to shut me up.. so im anticipating the worst.. i just want to readdress the balance when i bump into her again.. i know how to behave.. ignore. easy.
The effect it will have is her knowing full well you are trying to bribe her with a guilt trip which is typical "Nice guy" pathetic phaggotry. She may bypass the boyfriend line and go with a worse line: "I'm filing a restraining order with the police."

Pete this one's on YOU. YOU fvcked things up. LEARN from your mistakes and grow from them. MOVE ON. Period.

You've been on SoSuave since 2006...2006!! and you STILL don't have clue??!
 
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