Calling the quits with my LTR of three years... Gonna suck!

[Target_100]

Well here I am then, three years in a LTR. Now I gotta get out and I should have done so a long long time ago. Shes just not the right one for me.

I'm 29 now so time's running out haha!



Anyway, its gonna suck because:

1. I'm gonna miss the TLC
2. Shes gonna be FUBAR because of this
3. I'm gonna be FUBAR when I sees her with another man
4. I'm gonna get depressed and ****
5. I'm gonna have to get a hobby or something so I don't stay at home too much
6. I'm gonna have to expand on my social circle to have things to do in the weekend and hollydays
7. I'm potentially gonna be very needy and such be less attractive to chicks

This is at least what happened last time.



So I procrastinate on dumping her every day. But every day I dig myself deeper down, and its ****ty towards her too.


So how the fück do I get the strenght to kick my self in the azz and get it over with? I'm such a püssy! Please advice!

 

[Target_100]

Did I mention that I need some major advice from you guys?

 

[Alkali]

You have time. Men don't pysically plummet until forty.

However, that doesn't mean you time to waste.

Get the phone. Now.

Do you have it?

Call her. Be serious. Be scary (in the right way for God's sake)

Let her know you're troubled when you call her and ask her to meet you somewhere, anywhere.

I'd suggest where you met. Symmetry is beauty.

Go there, order drinks. Not food. Tell her you want to break up.

She'll resist. Assert that you're not right for each other. Point out her flaws.

Why you two don't click. End it.

Then come back here.

 

[Roulette]

If you're going to be that depressed when you break up with her, why break up with her in the first place? Basically, why do you want to break it off with her? List reasons. Don't end a good thing just because you read The Game and want to become a "master pickup artist" or whatever. I'd take an awesome long term relationship over random sex any day. Hands down.

Kudos,
Matt

 

[Roulette]

Call her. Be serious. Be scary (in the right way for God's sake)

Actually, if you have any integrity as a man, you will not be scary and choose to let her down gently.

I'd suggest where you met. Symmetry is beauty.

This is cruel irony, actually. Don't do this.

She'll resist. Assert that you're not right for each other. Point out her flaws.

Don't point out her flaws. Placing blame is not something a man with integrity would do. Simply tell her: we're just not compatible anymore.

This is the best breakup line ever. It does not place blame and she cannot argue with it.

Kudos,
Matt

 

[odietamo]

don't be that guy who says "we need a break." be a man and don't mess with her head by using verbiage that implies the relationship still exists and might be reconstituted in a short amount of time.

that's not what you're trying to do, so don't puss out and say it like that. that's what girls do.

 

[Alkali]

Perhaps scary wasn't the best word choice. I meant don't act like things are fine and dandy. Let her know something's up over the phone.

Let her consider the notion of you breaking up with her at dinner before you even mention it. That kind of scary.

Cruel Irony? Ha! Letting her down gently won't make her feel any better. It won't make you feel better.

In fact, it's merciful. She'll remember where she met you. It will make her sad. She'll remember where you left her, it will make her sad.

Why have her cry at two places when it could be one?

But it will make her angry. If she's the angry type you might want to park your car in the garage. If she's the silent type, lucky you.

Don't point out her flaws? Ok, be my guest. But when she calls you ten flipping times a day asking why you broke up with her, go for it.

Tell her she' perfect (flawless) and that you just felt like breaking up for no reason.

There's a difference between integrity and plain idiocy. Be blunt.

When her friends call you ten flipping times a day wondering why you broke up with her, go with it.

When people you've never met, never heard of call you asking why, go for it then!

People do not break up because they're perfect for one another.

Point out her flaws (for you.) Incompatability.

Let her know why you aren't right for one another. Save yourself the trouble.

 

[Target_100]

1. I'm not too attracted to her physically (she did some modeling but shes more pretty than cute).
2. I can't see myself having kids with her.
3. I remember the feeling of just having met a new girl that I liked, and I'd like to have that feeling again.

If we marry I don't think I ever will stop thinking about that I should have found someone better for me.


So I gotta dump her and that sux so I procrastinate on it which makes it worse. D'OH!

 

[Alkali]

1. I find myself more attracted to other women, in both the physical and personality departments. I'm not ready to settle.

2. I can't see myself having kids with her. She doesn't want kids. Isn't good with them. She wants kids and I don't.

3. I'd like to see what else is out there before making a life-long commitment.

There's always a positive or, in your case, negative spin to place on something.

If he's here, he wants to break up with her. He's 29! He has atleast ten years of youth left!

 

[Target_100]

Alkali-adjusted positive rewritten numbers list:

1. I want a girl thats cuter
2. I want kids with a girl thats cute and smart
3. I'd like a LTR with a cute and smart girl

Thats OK and all. But who's gonna kick me in the nuts so I get the courage to dump her? I'm such a püssy...

 

[Alkali]

Good point. We need someone to kick him in the nuts.

 

[Being_the_Don]

Men don't pysically plummet until forty.

Well, I plan to be in shape as Daniel Craig, Russel Crowe and Shemar Moore by the time I'm forty. You're talking the old days, I think.

 

[Bonhomme]

It looks like you need to work on your own attitude before you break up with her. If you're not ready to be more independent, stay the course until you are.

 

[Monkey]

Dump her ASAP!

Theres plenty of guys out there waiting for this girl to be single, so do them a favour and dump her NOW!

 

[typical]

Dump her ASAP!

Theres plenty of guys out there waiting for this girl to be single, so do them a favour and dump her NOW!

Hahaha nice one ........... from what you posted up you just told us your dumping her cause of the way she looks nothing else to me that screams of insecurity and also you say your gonna go downhill if you do ?? Man have you got alot of work to do with yourself. Like do the girl a favour and dump her already my money says she's sick of your pvssy a$$ anyway and wants a real man.

 

[blueguy]

I'm 29 now so time's running out haha!

So I take it you see a bleak future for yourself?