"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Calling the Girl, How should I go about this?

Love_Games?!?

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Ok I'll explain the situation in brief. There's a girl that I have been friends with for awhile... she has now started to like me and I like her back. Her friends tell me she doesn't date very often because of past boyfriends...

Anyways I went to spend New Years with her where I thought it was going to be a good time now that we know we both like eachother... and it wasn't.

She ignored me the whole night pretending that she didn't like me what so ever. We were drinking and she started to get quite annoying because all she wanted to do was call her ex... anyways thats when I started to ignore her and the night was just overall sloppy.

To get to the point though, I told her I'd call her tonight because I'd like to understand what the **** is going on... but I'm not really sure what to ask her or how to go about this without her getting the impression I really want her!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Love_Games?!?

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Ya wish it was that easy, we've been friends for quite sometime now though... so I'm not sure if I could end the chance of a relationship and a friendship so sudden.
 

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If a woman is still "missing" her ex when she's around you, she's not attracted to you. She's still heavily attracted to her ex. You won't get anywhere with her unless she makes an effort to forget about her ex and move on.

In other words, you're wasting your time with her.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Don't talk to her anymore and don't see her anymore. If she does like you she will comeback to you. But, don't wait for it to happen. You gotta cut these fake b!tches out of your mind! Go game other women.
 

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Desdinova said:
If a woman is still "missing" her ex when she's around you, she's not attracted to you. She's still heavily attracted to her ex. You won't get anywhere with her unless she makes an effort to forget about her ex and move on.

In other words, you're wasting your time with her.
For some reason I dont think thats the case, I think its just that shes confused and she probably has some attraction for you but being that the only romantic relationship she's had recently was her ex, she is going to miss him. She thinks she need him to survive. But I think once she realizes her ex wants nothing to do with her and you decide to leave her alone for a while and she doesn't see you as often as she use to, I think she will come to her senses.

But yo leave her alone for a while, im not saying cut her off but by you being their constantly bring up the issue she's aware of, it puts pressure on her and it will turn her off to the point she says "this is too complicated I think its best we keep things the way it is".

And you dont want that
 

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Best thing i would offer would be to just ignore her for a little. If she really liked you she will come back to you anyways, so just put her on the backburner, keep doing what you do, and she will come chase you, or else leave her for someone else.
 
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