"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Calling the Girl, How should I go about this?

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Ok I'll explain the situation in brief. There's a girl that I have been friends with for awhile... she has now started to like me and I like her back. Her friends tell me she doesn't date very often because of past boyfriends...

Anyways I went to spend New Years with her where I thought it was going to be a good time now that we know we both like eachother... and it wasn't.

She ignored me the whole night pretending that she didn't like me what so ever. We were drinking and she started to get quite annoying because all she wanted to do was call her ex... anyways thats when I started to ignore her and the night was just overall sloppy.

To get to the point though, I told her I'd call her tonight because I'd like to understand what the **** is going on... but I'm not really sure what to ask her or how to go about this without her getting the impression I really want her!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Ya wish it was that easy, we've been friends for quite sometime now though... so I'm not sure if I could end the chance of a relationship and a friendship so sudden.
 

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If a woman is still "missing" her ex when she's around you, she's not attracted to you. She's still heavily attracted to her ex. You won't get anywhere with her unless she makes an effort to forget about her ex and move on.

In other words, you're wasting your time with her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Don't talk to her anymore and don't see her anymore. If she does like you she will comeback to you. But, don't wait for it to happen. You gotta cut these fake b!tches out of your mind! Go game other women.
 

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Desdinova said:
If a woman is still "missing" her ex when she's around you, she's not attracted to you. She's still heavily attracted to her ex. You won't get anywhere with her unless she makes an effort to forget about her ex and move on.

In other words, you're wasting your time with her.
For some reason I dont think thats the case, I think its just that shes confused and she probably has some attraction for you but being that the only romantic relationship she's had recently was her ex, she is going to miss him. She thinks she need him to survive. But I think once she realizes her ex wants nothing to do with her and you decide to leave her alone for a while and she doesn't see you as often as she use to, I think she will come to her senses.

But yo leave her alone for a while, im not saying cut her off but by you being their constantly bring up the issue she's aware of, it puts pressure on her and it will turn her off to the point she says "this is too complicated I think its best we keep things the way it is".

And you dont want that
 

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Best thing i would offer would be to just ignore her for a little. If she really liked you she will come back to you anyways, so just put her on the backburner, keep doing what you do, and she will come chase you, or else leave her for someone else.
 
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