Calling out bullsh!t vs withdrawing attention

[Fireballs]

So I have been reading up on some older threads on how to deal with a womens bad behaviour the correct way. Some people have said that you need to call a women out on her crap as soon as it happens and others have said that you say nothing, but withdraw your attention and affection.

Which is the best way to go? Do you use a combination of the two? Where do you draw the line?

 

[SgtSplacker]

The only BS I am subject to is flaking, and as soon as it happens once i'm never meeting her somewhere again after that. I don't care if a girl calls to cancel on me before we go out. I just hate meeting someone somewhere that doesn't show up.

As far as any other BS is concerned, I just don't care what a woman says. I always keep a rotation going or plates spinning. One gets silly, i'll ditch her and pay attention to the next one.

 

[Cremasta]

In an LTR, I'll call her out and get it sorted.
Anything else, I just walk.

 

[nismo-4]

In an LTR, I'll call her out and get it sorted.
Anything else, I just walk.

I like and do this.

Most of us here are not in LTRs. So at the end of the day, she's not with you. I have a one strike policy for new women.

 

[latinnova]

I call them out on the spot, and if they don't like it then it's on to the next one. Holding back attention seems like a beta, childlike way of dealing with something.

 

[Masculinity]

It depends on the gravity of the offense and the tone in which she approaches it. A girl who is looking down while saying sorry is not the same as a girl who says "That's just who I am; you can't handle it?"

 

[smooth_as_silk]

Any girl you barely know should have ONE shot... she flakes, she's out.

I can't even imagine an LTR not showing up without even letting you know in advance... disrespect at its highest. Demote to FB...

 

[Fireballs]

I'm talking about in an LTR.

 

[SoSuave666]

You know my answer, fireballs. Attention and affection are a man's only currency in an LTR. There is nothing wrong with setting boundaries ONCE. When you set boundaries and they are repeatedly broken, calling a woman out does absolutely nothing. You MUST remove attention and affection so that she associates your lack of love with her poor behavior. When you establish boundaries, this is what happens. She crosses a boundary? You do not reprimand her by calling her out on it. You simply disengage yourself and the attention that she so craves.