Calling Is Done

[CaConfused]

Just my contribution:

While I'm on dates lately I often talk about how texting is how everyone communicates and ask girls how they react to calls vs texts.

The response has been unanimous:

If they don't know you yet, don't call them. Text.

After a few dates, they'll feel more accepting of a call.

Technology has made calls seem more alien and more investment. You think calling makes you stand out? It does - in the wrong way. You are raising the barrier of entry.

Text to begin. Call later.

** This applies to girls 33 and under.

 

[om1xr]

If you don't want to Text .....You are not going to Date

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Just my contribution:

While I'm on dates lately I often talk about how texting is how everyone communicates and ask girls how they react to calls vs texts.

The response has been unanimous:

If they don't know you yet, don't call them. Text.

After a few dates, they'll feel more accepting of a call.

Technology has made calls seem more alien and more investment. You think calling makes you stand out? It does - in the wrong way. You are raising the barrier of entry.

Text to begin. Call later.

** This applies to girls 33 and under.

This is still coming from a woman's mouth. Do you ask them why? Is it because it's easier to talk with 10 different guys at one time through texts. Versus having to divulge all of their attention at once to one person. OMG! the thought of it!

they'll feel more accepting of a call.

Classic. I'll call when I want. And if you don't answer or return my call soon....then you can go fvck yourself.

 

[TheException]

Agree 100% with OP. Texting has its advantages for us as well. Your a moron....YES A MORON if you think calling makes you "stand out" as some kind of guy with titanium balls.

 

[TheException]

I call anyway to assert dominance.

As rare as it is...im completely disagreeing with you flush. What the he11 is that^ Assert dominance?....lol. Nothing is getting asserted. I do think though...that the bolded above is "common knowledge/advice" as a lot of people think that way....but i dont think they really know why they think like that. You know? Sure it seems good on paper i guess....but it never plays out that way. A girls not going to think..."oh man he called instead of texted....he must be a REAL MAN".

My witty text > Your phone call going to her voicemail.

 

[VladPatton]

I agree. I think it's even over the age of 33. Calling will almost always get you the voice mail. Text em short, set shıt up, date. Then when you're more familiar you can be that special man in her life and call her up. Hopefully she'll answer.

 

[djjizzyjeff]

Text, Call, Call, Text. If the chick thinks you are good looking enough she'll answer either.

Just because you send a text doesn't guarantee you'll get an answer quicker than leaving a voicemail and vice versa. (Unless she can't talk due to work etc.)

Though I do agree texting is taking over somewhat. I usually do both talk and or text. It's up to you which one works better.

 

[Zarky]

Texting is the way to go. Here's a breakdown of my cell phone usage last month. And this is slightly skewed because I use my cell phone for work, so most of the minutes spent talking are work calls, whereas I send zero texts to clients.

Talk minutes used:
248 minutes (8.26 minutes per day)

Texts sent/received:
2434 (81 per day)

You can see that the VAST majority of my communications with b*tches is via text. I'm not saying text is "better," but it's certainly how the game is played today.

Even chicks in their 40s are doing it.

 

[Leonard Washington]

The benefits of calling are:

You should be better and more comfortable on the phone than she is. I feel that when I'm calling I am playing a "home game" of sorts. When I am texting it is leveling the playing field and I am losing my advantage.

I think this way because I am more witty and can think quicker on my feet than any women I have ever spoken to....

When I'm texting I can not build comfort especially if its someone I met online or it was from a cold approach etc. Which is important if you want to avoid flakes in general.

I feel like I can move things along quicker over a phone call and it comes across naturally and from the gut as opposed to me trying to craft the perfect text.

There is no way to decipher tone via text and if you are even the slightest bit sarcastic or have a dry sense of humor texting is really just taking away from that.

The bottom line is you have to take action physically to move things forward, you will never "talk" your way into getting laid, but talking with her on the phone has many benefits from my experience.

 

[Blistex]

I only use texting for short (very short) conversations like setting up events. I use calling for longer conversations—why type every word when you can just use your voice?

Personally, I think calling is better than texting because it is easier to read into a tone of a voice rather than the tone of a text. I see plenty of threads here where people have questions about texts that have been sent to them—specifically the meanings of the texts. They wouldn't have those kinds of questions if they were speaking to the person through a phone call, in most scenarios at least.

 

[Zarky]

Who says it goes to voice mail? It asserts dominance because they are sooo uncomfortable doing it. It puts them on the defensive. They can't scheme and plot and make excuses like they do with texts which also makes it a good Intel gathering tool.

Somehow I doubt anything you do "asserts dominance" with women, my friend. Everything in that post treats women as an enemy. I've highlighted the phrases you use which show me that you have had repeated failings with women.

Kinda sad.

 

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Somehow I doubt anything you do "asserts dominance" with women, my friend. Everything in that post treats women as an enemy. I've highlighted the phrases you use which show me that you have had repeated failings with women.

Kinda sad

Apologies PairsPlus for our resident troll, she's not a big fan of male introspection. We dare not analyse women's behaviour or ELSE feel the sting of her shaming. Back in your box snarky.

 

[the_stig]

I stopped calling before rapport was built about two years ago. It was noticeable beyond coincidence that if I called too soon, especially before a first date, after just getting their number, etc., then often I would never hear from them again. Other times they would pickup, but act weirded out like I was doing something wrong.

I miss the phone days. I'm a pretty smooth talker and after meeting a new girl, I could almost always dramatically raise her interest level with a fun and flirty phone conversation. Unfortunately for myself and a lot of other guys, that doesn't transition over to texting so easily. You send one text that isn't quite perfect these days and its game over. Didn't have that problem 5-10 years ago!