"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Calling her out on her ISH..

Captin Krunch

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I've been doing a lot of thinking about this one plate and I'm gettin tired of the things that she does...I put her on NC for about a month...and she was going crrazyy and happy to talk to me the first week I started back talking to her...but now I'm back in the saaamme pothole that I was in at first! She is just taking the relationship for granted and getting too comfortable.....

So my question is after NC, if she goes back to the same thing do you call her out on her ish? Do you let her know you want things to change or your gone for good this time?....cuz honestly I'm ready to call her out on it!!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Women tend to respond better to covert communication (slowly stepping back and withdrawing attention) than openly talking about it (calling her out).

I know some guys are all about "putting her in her place on her bullsh!t!!!" but I don't think this is always the best solution. It would just make you look needy. Actions speak louder than words.

The way she acts is a direct reaction to the way you have been acting around her. She probably doesn't really know what she's doing, it's mostly subconscious.

You need to make sure you never let her get too comfortable in the first place so she never even gets the chance to take you for granted.
 

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Captin Krunch said:
I've been doing a lot of thinking about this one plate and I'm gettin tired of the things that she does...I put her on NC for about a month...and she was going crrazyy and happy to talk to me the first week I started back talking to her...but now I'm back in the saaamme pothole that I was in at first! She is just taking the relationship for granted and getting too comfortable.....

So my question is after NC, if she goes back to the same thing do you call her out on her ish? Do you let her know you want things to change or your gone for good this time?....cuz honestly I'm ready to call her out on it!!
If she goes back to the way she was before, then YOU are probably doing something wrong.

What are the things she does?
How is she getting comfortable?
What's the normal interaction between the two of you?

The way I see it, by going NC, you re-grabbed the frame, and then didn't know what to do with it once you broke NC.

How long did it take her to go back to the same attitude that made you go NC in the first place?

And calling her out on it will bring NOTHING, no light, no understanding of the situation. She will just shrug you off as "making up stuff". If she's just a plate, why are you giving this so much thought?

You have more plates to spin, right? Just ignore this one and move on to the other ones.
 

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starplayer said:
Women tend to respond better to covert communication (slowly stepping back and withdrawing attention) than openly talking about it (calling her out).

I know some guys are all about "putting her in her place on her bullsh!t!!!" but I don't think this is always the best solution. It would just make you look needy. Actions speak louder than words.

The way she acts is a direct reaction to the way you have been acting around her. She probably doesn't really know what she's doing, it's mostly subconscious.

You need to make sure you never let her get too comfortable in the first place so she never even gets the chance to take you for granted.
Highlight this advice.

You cant call her out for taking the relationship for granted and getting too comfortable, thats low interest. Calling out wont work for this.

You keep her off her comfort by being unreliable, unpredictable and making her anxious. Not replying, disappearing, cancelling/turning up late, acting uninterested etc.

It sounds bad on paper, but in reality it will solve your problems. Indeed the NC might have worked to reamp interest, but the problem is evidently on your part when your together with this plate. Keep her chasing.
 

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starplayer said:
Women tend to respond better to covert communication (slowly stepping back and withdrawing attention) than openly talking about it (calling her out).

I know some guys are all about "putting her in her place on her bullsh!t!!!" but I don't think this is always the best solution. It would just make you look needy. Actions speak louder than words.

The way she acts is a direct reaction to the way you have been acting around her. She probably doesn't really know what she's doing, it's mostly subconscious.

You need to make sure you never let her get too comfortable in the first place so she never even gets the chance to take you for granted.
I think you should listen to this guy ^
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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