Calling her out on her ISH..

[Captin Krunch]

I've been doing a lot of thinking about this one plate and I'm gettin tired of the things that she does...I put her on NC for about a month...and she was going crrazyy and happy to talk to me the first week I started back talking to her...but now I'm back in the saaamme pothole that I was in at first! She is just taking the relationship for granted and getting too comfortable.....

So my question is after NC, if she goes back to the same thing do you call her out on her ish? Do you let her know you want things to change or your gone for good this time?....cuz honestly I'm ready to call her out on it!!

 

[starplayer]

Women tend to respond better to covert communication (slowly stepping back and withdrawing attention) than openly talking about it (calling her out).

I know some guys are all about "putting her in her place on her bullsh!t!!!" but I don't think this is always the best solution. It would just make you look needy. Actions speak louder than words.

The way she acts is a direct reaction to the way you have been acting around her. She probably doesn't really know what she's doing, it's mostly subconscious.

You need to make sure you never let her get too comfortable in the first place so she never even gets the chance to take you for granted.

 

[Kailex]

I've been doing a lot of thinking about this one plate and I'm gettin tired of the things that she does...I put her on NC for about a month...and she was going crrazyy and happy to talk to me the first week I started back talking to her...but now I'm back in the saaamme pothole that I was in at first! She is just taking the relationship for granted and getting too comfortable.....

So my question is after NC, if she goes back to the same thing do you call her out on her ish? Do you let her know you want things to change or your gone for good this time?....cuz honestly I'm ready to call her out on it!!

If she goes back to the way she was before, then YOU are probably doing something wrong.

What are the things she does?
How is she getting comfortable?
What's the normal interaction between the two of you?

The way I see it, by going NC, you re-grabbed the frame, and then didn't know what to do with it once you broke NC.

How long did it take her to go back to the same attitude that made you go NC in the first place?

And calling her out on it will bring NOTHING, no light, no understanding of the situation. She will just shrug you off as "making up stuff". If she's just a plate, why are you giving this so much thought?

You have more plates to spin, right? Just ignore this one and move on to the other ones.

 

[Ease]

Women tend to respond better to covert communication (slowly stepping back and withdrawing attention) than openly talking about it (calling her out).

I know some guys are all about "putting her in her place on her bullsh!t!!!" but I don't think this is always the best solution. It would just make you look needy. Actions speak louder than words.

The way she acts is a direct reaction to the way you have been acting around her. She probably doesn't really know what she's doing, it's mostly subconscious.

You need to make sure you never let her get too comfortable in the first place so she never even gets the chance to take you for granted.

Highlight this advice.

You cant call her out for taking the relationship for granted and getting too comfortable, thats low interest. Calling out wont work for this.

You keep her off her comfort by being unreliable, unpredictable and making her anxious. Not replying, disappearing, cancelling/turning up late, acting uninterested etc.

It sounds bad on paper, but in reality it will solve your problems. Indeed the NC might have worked to reamp interest, but the problem is evidently on your part when your together with this plate. Keep her chasing.

 

[WC2]

Women tend to respond better to covert communication (slowly stepping back and withdrawing attention) than openly talking about it (calling her out).

I know some guys are all about "putting her in her place on her bullsh!t!!!" but I don't think this is always the best solution. It would just make you look needy. Actions speak louder than words.

The way she acts is a direct reaction to the way you have been acting around her. She probably doesn't really know what she's doing, it's mostly subconscious.

You need to make sure you never let her get too comfortable in the first place so she never even gets the chance to take you for granted.

I think you should listen to this guy ^