calling after 1st date

[Metro3pilot]

Ok Fella's

I did a search and can't find much about this ...I went out with a 30 year old tonight ..seems kool and I would like to get to know her better.

she told me she had weds off, so I was considering calling her on Tues night or weds to set something up for weds night.

my friend and all her infinite wisdom told me" don't play games if you like her call her tommorow " yeah uh huh.....

opinions please

 

[Phyzzle]

There is an article on the front page advising you to call right after a first date.

An article written by A WOMAN!! (snort derisively)

Carefully missing from that article is any indication if her last boyfriend did that after her 1st date.

You can call it playing games, or you can call it not smothering her. Whatever.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I'd call her on Monday. No need to gush over the first date but there isn't any reason to wait for more than a day. Besides, wait until Tuesday she may have made other plans. She's already told you when she's free and may think you aren't interested if you wait too long. Just call and say "Hey, lets get together on Wednesday and [fill in the blank]." Short and simple.

 

[Tyrone Biggums]

Have Patience, No Need to Rush

Call her after 5-9 days. Give her time to miss you. This will enhance interest level. If she forgets who you are then she wasn't really interested. Don't listen to dating advice from women. They may have good intentions but will lead you in the wrong direction. You call the shots. Patience.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Call her after 5-9 days. Give her time to miss you. This will enhance interest level. If she forgets who you are then she wasn't really interested. Don't listen to dating advice from women. They may have good intentions but will lead you in the wrong direction. You call the shots. Patience.

She's already let him know that she was interested by telling him when the next time she was available. Waiting a week or so later will make her think that you weren't interested. You can't expect that the "wait and let her miss you" rule will work with every woman, especially those who have already let you know that they're interested.

 

[Latinoman]

She's already let him know that she was interested by telling him when the next time she was available. Waiting a week or so later will make her think that you weren't interested. You can't expect that the "wait and let her miss you" rule will work with every woman, especially those who have already let you know that they're interested.

I agree with you.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Has anyone else noticed that guys are so focused on "the rules of engagement" that they miss the signs that they should progress further?

 

[Tyrone Biggums]

Be a Challenge

Waiting a week or so later will make her think that you weren't interested.

Well good. That's what supposed to happen. She was sure of herself before with every other guy she went out with. Now the tables are turned. She's wondering if he likes her. The key is to be unlike all the other guys who call within the next two days after the date... Predictably. He'll be the one who sticks out in her mind as the one who held back and the one who is more of a challenge. Only unflexable, structured women fail to respond to a man who's a challenge.

 

[Latinoman]

Well good. That's what supposed to happen. She was sure of herself before with every other guy she went out with. Now the tables are turned. She's wondering if he likes her. The key is to be unlike all the other guys who call within the next two days after the date... Predictably. He'll be the one who sticks out in her mind as the one who held back and the one who is more of a challenge. Only unflexable, structured women fail to respond to a man who's a challenge.

Here is the problem...the likelihood that a HIGH quality woman being ask by ONE man is very very slim. More likely, she has several men showing interest and she might be going to luch/dinner with some of them...until hitting the jackpot. That does not make her a slut. It simply make her a smart woman.

Now...if he is good...she will probably wait and see. If he does not call her in more than 3 days...the chances of she accepting another invitation are great.

He has to SHOW interest. Not necessary lot of interest...but enough as to make her realize that he does NOT want a "friendship".

Put it this way...if I date that same woman...you can rest assure that HE would be out of luck. But then again, the woman I have dated...I have either kissed or being very intimate PRIOR to the "official date". So, it is a moot point in my case.

 

[Latinoman]

Also...she ALREADY told him she was interested.

He can do some things to increase that interest. But he cannot get careless. Especially if he has not being intimate with her.

 

[Slevin]

DUDE if u kissed her good/fvcked her good on the first date, she will want to see u as soon as possible, dont just wait 5-9 days what kind of stupid advice is that??? If you coudl read signals, you would KNOW that her saying shes free wednesday means she is free for YOU, go see her and carry on with getting to know her

don't play games when you two are apart, play games when you two are TOGETHER (aka push/push, playfully fighting, mental abuse ect ect)

Uhhhh.... you're not even old enough to post in here man.

Also, Francisco nailed this thread on the third, fifth and seventh post.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Here is the problem...the likelihood that a HIGH quality woman being ask by ONE man is very very slim. More likely, she has several men showing interest and she might be going to luch/dinner with some of them...until hitting the jackpot. That does not make her a slut. It simply make her a smart woman.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...don't play games when you two are apart, play games when you two are TOGETHER (aka push/push, playfully fighting, mental abuse ect ect)

Interesting concept.....

 

[zerocelcius]

Skip Your cool and all, but it isn't all about F'n, buddy. Little horny dogs want to F' that is why they jump on your leg when you walk in the door, than the couch pillow, etc.

Don's are not Little horny dogs. Their big horny dogs....no just playing. 4 real though. It isn't about how many girls you can bang.

Even more so the older you get. You will see when you get older. Us old guys don't have the energy we once had. lol.

Peace 'n Beatz


Ohhh... and I agree call her. It isn't like your in the movie swingers.

 

[rocky_mtn]

skip2youlou, I thought you were leaving here for good, be a man of your word and get the fvck out of here.


Metro3pilot, using the # of days to call back is a rule of thumb, but not set in stone, if you wanted to go out next weekend then waiting a few days might work, but if she's got Wednesday off, my all means call her and set something up. Just don't make a habit of constant calls. But if you're riding a good vibe, then keep it going.

 

[Latinoman]

don't play games when you two are apart, play games when you two are TOGETHER (aka push/push, playfully fighting, mental abuse ect ect)

Exactly!

 

[Metro3pilot]

Hey Fella's I appriciate everyone's advice

I did call her today and she enthusiasticly agreed to a date tomorrow night, so in this case I don't think it helped or hurt to wait a day to call ...

zerocelcius

It isn't about how many girls you can bang.

Even more so the older you get. You will see when you get older. Us old guys don't have the energy we once had. lol.

Amen, thats the damn truth if I have ever heard it ! ! !

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Hey Fella's I appriciate everyone's advice

I did call her today and she enthusiasticly agreed to a date tomorrow night, so in this case I don't think it helped or hurt to wait a day to call ...

Congratulations, your chances of success may not have been as good if you would have waited. Also, don't wait until the last minute to plan a date. If she's worthwhile some other guy will beat you to the punch as you are counting the days on your calendar.

 

[zerocelcius]

Congratz!