"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Calling a girl's work after you just left there

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Aight here's the schitchiashion. There's been two times recently where I was at a store--one was a spa/massage parlor where I was buying a gift certificate, the other was a hair salon--and I wanted to ask out one of the hot chicks that worked there that I had been chatting with.
Thing is both times I basically p*ssed out and left without doing anything, only to kick myself for it. Since regret is ALWAYS worse than rejection, I ended up calling both places back and asking the girls out. One of them said yes, the other wasn't there and I haven't tried calling back.
So do you think the call back after leaving is a bad move? I mean obviously talking and getting the number in person is always the way to go, but is calling back better than doing nothing, or does it just come off as creepy and desperate? I can see pros and cons to both sides.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Jaxon said:
One of them said yes, the other wasn't there and I haven't tried calling back.
So do you think the call back after leaving is a bad move?
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What happened on your date? Did you make out with her at least?
 
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DonJuan11 said:
What happened on your date? Did you make out with her at least?
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Funny you should ask. When we went out I found out that she was 18, which shocked me because I had pegged her for 22-23 (I'm 25). 'Course I'm a terrible judge of girls age so I probably shouldn't have been too shocked.

We went out 3 times, we made out but nothing more than that. I lost interest in her because of her immaturity and super hesitancy with getting physical. She had a couple tats and a tongue piercing so I figured she was sexually experienced, but I ended up learning she was a virgin. I know that if I wanted to put in the time I could have probably gotten her to give it up, but the loss of interest and time and effort I would have had to put in wasn't worth it to me.

Instead I decided to turn her into an experiment of sorts: How big of an ass can I be before this girl decides to walk away?

We had our final date set to watch a movie at her place at 7:00, except that I didn't show up or call. At about 7:45 she sent me a text saying something like "Guess I'm going to have to eat these cookies by myself" (she had apparently baked cookies for me). I replied and said something like "Hope they're good". To which she asked if she had done something wrong. That's when I told her that I thought she was playing games and it was turning me off. She apologized and said she was just trying to protect herself.
This is where I really wanted to push it to see what sort of reaction I would get. I intentionally responded like a total prick just to see what she would say: "You're too timid with being physical, and I have a feeling you aren't going to give it up". She responded with "That's right I'm not giving it up and if you think I am then goodbye"

I didn't reply, and I haven't heard from her since. I know this sounds like a total jerk move on my part but like I said I had lost interest and didn't care anymore. I did think it was pretty funny that I stood her up while she was baking me cookies, but I still managed to get her to apologize.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i wouldn't really call it a loser move if he was just trying to sex a h0r. This girl obviously wasn't low-quality enough for him so it was a good thing to get rid of her.

That was an interesting way of asking her out, tho...calling her at work.
 
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And I thought I had fvcking problems...:crazy:
 
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Jaxon said:
Instead I decided to turn her into an experiment of sorts: How big of an ass can I be before this girl decides to walk away?

We had our final date set to watch a movie at her place at 7:00, except that I didn't show up or call. At about 7:45 she sent me a text saying something like "Guess I'm going to have to eat these cookies by myself" (she had apparently baked cookies for me). I replied and said something like "Hope they're good". To which she asked if she had done something wrong. That's when I told her that I thought she was playing games and it was turning me off. She apologized and said she was just trying to protect herself.
This is where I really wanted to push it to see what sort of reaction I would get. I intentionally responded like a total prick just to see what she would say: "You're too timid with being physical, and I have a feeling you aren't going to give it up". She responded with "That's right I'm not giving it up and if you think I am then goodbye"

I didn't reply, and I haven't heard from her since. I know this sounds like a total jerk move on my part but like I said I had lost interest and didn't care anymore. I did think it was pretty funny that I stood her up while she was baking me cookies, but I still managed to get her to apologize.
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Wow. Everytime I think someone acts like the biggest jerk on this site, another person comes along and blows them out of the water. You should have thrown some eggs at her house, that would have been hilarious.

And I thought I had some issues with women...
 
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