"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Calling a girl a slut

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I was curious a girl who sleeps around, and gets a called a slut, does that have a positive effect on your odds of making them more attracted to you.

Scenerio: I was banging this girl and i started to like her. I became the "nice guy" finally I pushed myself away from her but then when I came back we got in an argument because she said I can't just come and go in her life when I feel like it. Anyway she told me not contact her anymore. I was bitter about it and I told her that's was fine because she'd prob end up with an STD or pregnant anyway, because all she does is drink and sleep around.
She rebuttaled with, well if I have an STD then you have one because when we were sleeping together I wasn't just with you (even though she told me she was).

Anyway I told her she really was a Fvcking slut, and that was all she was good for, was being a frat mattress. All she does is go by the fraternity house to get hers. So she continued to defend herself, and I just kept insisting she was a slut. She said people would disagree of how I perceive her, I told her they were blind and that the truth hurts.

I wake up with a text from her asking me if I was mad.. I said nah not really. Then she said stay mad. Idk what she was getting at but I ended up screwing it up by writing her an email telling her about why i cut her off and this and that, and sort of said I lost my composure because she had lied to me about sleeping with others.. she never responded to the email or texted me again..

Anyway my point is, I was wondering if I just said something like, oh I didn't expect to be contacted by a slut today, if she feeds off that. Like if thats what made her come back to me in the morning.. Is it some psychological thing where hey you treat a girl like dirt, they stick to you like mud.. or was she just getting the last word in?

What do you guys think about this scenerio..
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Im not sure what you want from this post or why you even bother with a girl who has cheated on you.
yeah she is a $lut, shoving it in he rface in a bitter angry way can only ever backfire on you, christ knows what she has told all of her acquaintances about you!

if she keeps texting you, and you want to try and get back into her pants and catch one of them there seckually transmissive disorders, keep it playful, "hey whats up my gorgeous little $lut?"..."any chance of your ankles getting together some time for a catch up" type of stuff, has to be done playfully though.

she may of course just tell you to f uck right off or show your abusive texts to her friends etc!
 

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I honestly don't care what she does with my texts.. I'm not looking for an opportunity with this girl anymore, after our conversation and I verified she was sleeping with other people while with me, even though she said she wasn't. I still had mixed emotions that why I sent the email, but after running everything through my head I wish I didn't even send the email after how she walked all over me.

It just seemed odd, like how she responded to belittling her. It's like she needed to prove to me I was wrong, even though she didn't want to talk to me anymore. It seemed like I had power over her by calling her those things and she saw that. And the conversation was done and she even told me not to text her anymore, and then in the morning she texts me.. I was kind of in shock and awe..

I'm just looking for some opinions on this matter, as to what the hell actually happened and if there was some sort of reverse effect on her attitude when I started talking down to her. Instead of being the nice guy I had been to her.
 

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in her head, she isnt a $slut, of course she is, she behaves like one, if she saw a female doing what she has been doing, she would call that female a $lut.
o woman ever thinks she is a $lut and will justify any of her behaviour with whatever twisted logic she can muster. you dont have any power over her, she is just reacting defensively to being called a $lut.
 

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The one time that you do exactly what a girl says is when she tells you "Don't contact me again".
You say "ok", walk away and delete all contact details you have for her.

When you wake up to the text from her (and you've deleted her details from your phone), a good response is simply "Who's this?"

Making it clear that she is of absolutely no further importance to you will hurt her pride a lot more than having a toe-to-toe argument about whether she's a slut or not.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I can't see this as having anything but a negative effect on both hers and your own self esteem. Get away quick!
 

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headFirst said:
What do you guys think about this scenerio..
You cannot attract a woman by insulting her. All you're doing is creating drama, and it's not the good drama women crave in their lives. There is no purpose to what you're doing unless you yourself are addicted to the drama.

Just leave her alone and find a new woman for a fresh start.
 

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This is just one more piece of evidence in the case of "every woman is fvcked in the head." Your honor, I present exhibit 3021, she likes to be called a slut.
 

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yea then today now i get "hey baby"

she was probably showing her friends the text messages and they were trying to be funny.
 

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I say that for your next job interview, you call the recruiter/interviewer a douchebag. Just for shits and giggles.

Good luck!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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broke up with an ex and texted her that she's a slut. she never talked to me again lol.
 

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vatoloco said:
I say that for your next job interview, you call the recruiter/interviewer a douchebag. Just for shits and giggles.

Good luck!

I'm not an idiot and I can do without the insult. It's not like I randomly walked up to a girl and called her a slut expecting something positive. This girl acted like one so I titled her behavior appropriately.

It's not a new technique to pick up girls, I just saw the response I was getting and it just seemed like i had an edge over her.. I was looking to see if anyone has a similar scenero. That is all.
 

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Hey OP, I got a couple girls I'd love to call slvts. Since you are in the business of doing so, how bout I give you their phone numbers and you do it for me. I'd sincerely appreciate that.
 

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I do feel horrible about calling her that stuff, don't get me wrong here, it was hard that she lied and was banging someone else while with me, and telling me it ws just me..

So I don't want you guys thinking I'm this type of guy who verbally abuses women.
 

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headFirst said:
I do feel horrible about calling her that stuff, don't get me wrong here, it was hard that she lied and was banging someone else while with me, and telling me it ws just me..

So I don't want you guys thinking I'm this type of guy who verbally abuses women.
i cant believe the kind of responses u r getting from the guys here. who cares what he called her? the girl pissed him off and he responded in the heat of the moment..simple as that. if a girl i was sleeping with was also sleeping with other dudes, i would call her a slut too.
though OP i suggest you dont try contacting her, just let her go
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ezio said:
i cant believe the kind of responses u r getting from the guys here. who cares what he called her? the girl pissed him off and he responded in the heat of the moment..simple as that. if a girl i was sleeping with was also sleeping with other dudes, i would call her a slut too.
though OP i suggest you dont try contacting her, just let her go
Thanks man.. Yea the other day shes sent a text "hey baby" i jut ignored it.. and i don't plan on talking to her anymore.. Sucks to know the girl you cared for and was sleeping with was banging other people at the same time but I'm sure she won't find much happiness with the path she is on.
 

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Dude crap like this is gonna happen alot women are always trying to mindf*ck us if we ever get on their bad sides. Women are vindictive because they are way more emotional than us guys. Not only that but it seems to me it always hurts us more to find out a woman is unfaithful than the other way around.

Dont kick the hornet's nest, just walk away and dont go near it again.
 

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Thundernuts said:
OP

Dude crap like this is gonna happen alot women are always trying to mindf*ck us if we ever get on their bad sides. Women are vindictive because they are way more emotional than us guys. Not only that but it seems to me it always hurts us more to find out a woman is unfaithful than the other way around.

Dont kick the hornet's nest, just walk away and dont go near it again.
THanks man, that is some really sound advice. I've been feeling remorse about it all and it's got me feeling really down, because I'm not usually like that.. I wish I could of walked away on a good note. I guess it's just a lesson learned.
 

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I was thinking of actually responding to her text: where she said "Hey baby" and say, Idk if that was for me or not but I want to take this opportunity to respond and say I will never forgive myself for the things I said to you.
 

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headFirst said:
I was thinking of actually responding to her text: where she said "Hey baby" and say, Idk if that was for me or not but I want to take this opportunity to respond and say I will never forgive myself for the things I said to you.
Headfirst, let me ask you something. In your mind, in your heart, do you think she is a slut? If you do, does it bother you she still contacts you? Seems to me you still have feelings for this one. I mean what do you want from her? You want to be a plate for her? Nothing really wrong if so. We as guys spin plates.

The thing is I do not compete when I find they are in fact spinning plates. I mean you could as long as you strap up, but no kissing and certainly no oral from her.

I would think your best move would be move on about your business. I may say keep her as a plate if you in fact knew there were only one other guy or something off the wall as such, but getting horizontal with this one is probably NOT an idea you want to entertain.. on the real or real talk as the bruthas would say.

Consider what we preach here: If you have options you would erase Ms. Slut from your memory. Or keep playing with the fire. Most of us all have done the sluts. My last two were and I am not hanging around after learning this.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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