call will txt/call but not meet

[anointed]

Ive been on a few dates with this girl. But it seems like its real hard to get her to come out. But shell txt me all the time, and call me up or have me call her.

A friend of mine who knows her said she told him that she think im real cool but feels weird if its just me and her. I think cos one time i made a move on her and held her hand and she let go after a bit. I think thats why. Its strange though.

Anyone have any experience with this?? Usually id take the constant txting etc as an IOI but this doesnt feel like it too much.

Should i confront her? In what way? .. .will continually txting her and having her thinking of me do anything? Or will she only think of me in a friends way?

looking for experience on this kinda thing from others.
cheers

 

[Aaron B]

low interest. next.

texting is perfect for her, because she gets to enjoy the good feeling that comes along with your attention, but without actually having to do anything FOR YOU.

What's in it for you? Thats what you should be focused on.

 

[Cremasta]

Just don't respond to the sms for a while (days maybe). If she sends you one asking you why you haven't replied, you can try something along the lines of...

"Why don't you just call me?"

then if she does and you have her on the phone you can say

"All this sms'ing is costing me money and to be honest, if we're going to talk I'd prefer to do it face to face"

 

[anointed]

makes sense.

Ill do that ^^

cheers guys. Do you think that will raise IL though by confronting her like that and showing her im about to drop her?? I want this girl. Ive heard stories of people calling chicks out and making the girls whole perspective flip in one moment.. like LOW -> HIGH... I guess my only shot really is having her miss my txts making her want me more?? Feels like shell just find someone else though.. grrr i feel like im losing that way. Need to get her face-to-face..

 

[Cremasta]

I guess my only shot really is having her miss my txts making her want me more??

This is almost right... She won't miss your texts simply because you don't send them... she WILL miss your texts if the reason you aren't sending them is because you are out having fun with other people (read - other women).

Look, if she finds someone else... then she finds someone else. It may be a missed opportunity and you'll feel sad about it, but from what you have said, I'm not convinced she is all that into you. She feels 'weird' about being alone with you? Not generally a good sign.

As for confronting her, I don't think you've got enough good rapport to be able to pull that one off and get a good outcome. You can give it a go and if it works then all kudos to you, but I've generally found confrontation is not worth the effort... not with so many other women out there