Call vs text

[Giantsfan88]

I initiated a text one day with this girl I'm seeing and I didn't feel good about my texting. I then switched to calling her. She has never missed any of my calls but has only initiated texts with me. So does it look like I'm putting more effort into communication than she is? I'm trying not to chase...

 

[Tictac]

Calls are fine.

So don't chase then...

 

[Giantsfan88]

Sometimes I'm not sure what qualifies as chasing anymore. It's always been the death of my potential long term relationships

 

[logicallefty]

I prefer texts. But never text too much. A few exchanges each and be done. If you call keep it short and sweet, like 10 minutes tops.

None of these 3-4 hour phone calls "to get to know each other" like is done in the beta world. :nono:


A few texts or a short call both subconsciously creates a feeling in her that you are a busy man (who doesn't have time for more, but you do have time for the date you setup with her in those texts or call). And this goes back to basics, DJ-101, women don't like men who are too available.

 

[Chickfight]

I prefer texts. But never text too much. A few exchanges each and be done. If you call keep it short and sweet, like 10 minutes tops.

None of these 3-4 hour phone calls "to get to know each other" like is done in the beta world. :nono:


A few texts or a short call both subconsciously creates a feeling in her that you are a busy man (who doesn't have time for more, but you do have time for the date you setup with her in those texts or call). And this goes back to basics, DJ-101, women don't like men who are too available.

I agree with this, I used to be anti text, but really it's only bad if used in excess. After getting a girls number, a text is much more casual. If you call it's al a lot more intimidating even if you were gonna be chill and casual.

But yeah keep the texts really casual as we'll, it's easier to come across creepy or needy of text. Here's an example, this is actually a real convo from a while back.

•Fun chilling with you Megan. Ughh, I'm so hungover What are you up to?

*Likewise! I definitely share your pain/hangover though :/I'm doing nothing productive at all haha. How about you?

•Haha I'm playing gta with my boy so nothing much either. I'm going to this place called LETSGETDRUNKN**** later around 8 or 9. I'd like you to come

*That sounds like the best post-hangover afternoon plan. I'd be up for it! Would it be alright if I bring along my roommate?

•Yeah it's pretty good
Of course bring your friend. I'll text you the address later, it's at *******

*Lovely, looking forward to it

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Easy, I'd say just be normal over text and keep the flirting to a minimum. Plenty of time for that in person

 

[Skinnylove]

Chasing ain't bad if she likes you more...

 

[Yorkex]

Try to set up a date or meet and greet.. I'm not a fan of getting to know someone over text.
You get more information when in person and can screen properly

 

[Mr_Maximus]

Use the phone to make arrangements to meet her in person.

call or text, it doesn't matter, just have a clear objective and keep it brief.

If she wants to see you, she will, even if you send her a smoke signal.