Call the next day- Disagree w/ DJBC

[Evolution]

3) Never call the very next day.
Never call the very next day after getting a number no matter how good looking they are or how well the approach / conversation
went.
When you call the very next day, she’ll think you’re desperate and have nothing going on in your life. When you refrain from calling
the next day you’re telling her you have a life, your busy, and your time is important.



I disagree with this, I have called girls the next day after I got their # and have gotten really good responses.

 

[Mr. Bojangles]

I also disagree with it. Why be like all those other guys and wait the designated 3 days or 6 days or whatever it may be? If you weaved your magic well, why not be the exception and call on the next day?

When you call the very next day, she’ll think you’re desperate and have nothing going on in your life.

When you meet her you will be giving her the exact opposite impression. You'll be acting ****y/funny, teasing etc. and showing her that you're a cool guy. She won't be expecting you to call her the next day, and being unpredictable can work in your favour.

When you refrain from calling the next day you’re telling her you have a life, you're busy, and your time is important.

Let's assume that 75% of people wait at least 3 days. Is she going to then automatically think that all those people are busy, have lives and their time is very important?

Ultimately, it's all based on context. If circumstances were such that you didn't have time to make much of an impression, I wouldn't call her the next day. But if you've made the connection, built up the rapport, feel free to do what you think feels best.

 

[Road Demon]

Don't call or text the next day, unless you had sex with her. This is Esp. important if she has only a moderate interest level.

I broke that rule recently and it was a bad call. Call the second or 3rd day.

Bottom line: It appears needy and suplicating EVEN if you have a strong frame to call the next day.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Don't call or text the next day, unless you had sex with her. This is Esp. important if she has only a moderate interest level.

I can go along with this part most of the time.

I broke that rule recently and it was a bad call. Call the second or 3rd day...

I'm curious, what was the situation and what happened?

 

[everywomanshero]

If I makeout but can't/don't close the deal, I often call them the *same* night and check to make sure they made it home safely. lol. Talk about breaking the "rules". Basically, this is really micromanaging (worrying over when to call). Seriously, when I make out with a club chick but the deal cannot be closed for some reason, I call her the same damn night and often they have told me they probably would've flaked me off as just another make out bar guy otherwise, maybe bull****, maybe not, but the important thing is whether or not two people are mutually interested, not over some microscopic details such as the number of hours between shooting a load on her face and having called her. The truth is we *should* be too busy to remember a chick we met 3 days ago unless we've talked to her since. I'd never remember to call them unless I set them up in my phone's calendar or something nuts. How would a guy who is supposably so busy manage to remember to call?

 

[verysuave]

If I makeout but can't/don't close the deal, I often call them the *same* night and check to make sure they made it home safely. lol. Talk about breaking the "rules". Basically, this is really micromanaging (worrying over when to call). Seriously, when I make out with a club chick but the deal cannot be closed for some reason, I call her the same damn night and often they have told me they probably would've flaked me off as just another make out bar guy otherwise, maybe bull****, maybe not, but the important thing is whether or not two people are mutually interested, not over some microscopic details such as the number of hours between shooting a load on her face and having called her. The truth is we *should* be too busy to remember a chick we met 3 days ago unless we've talked to her since. I'd never remember to call them unless I set them up in my phone's calendar or something nuts. How would a guy who is supposably so busy manage to remember to call?

i told a chick once after i got her number "im gona call you exactly 3 days from now so i wouldn't sound desperate to you. OKAY miss? (surcasitcally)" she laughed and squealed

 

[BeyondCharm]

Strike while the irons hot!!

 

[verysuave]

Strike while the irons hot!!

I AGREE with this but.. tell us the time frame for "STRIKE WHILE THE IRON IS HOT". wait 3 days? etc etc