"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Call the girl, she hangs up, then her boyfriend calls me!

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haha, that was an interesting thing that just happened.

I got the girl's phone number on MySpace, decided to call a few days later, then she picks up. We talk for a minute and she's like "hey I'm busy" and hangs up.

Then her boyfriend calls me and tells me not to call her anymore. I was like "Alright, cool". He was being pretty cool about it.

But anyway, what would you have done in this situation?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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lol...you should have told the guy that his girl likes attention and that she didnt even know you and gave you her number and he should watch out, then that would have planted the seed in his head and he would become AFC..lol.
 

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That's really sneaky.

I love it.

Thanks :)
 

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She gave you the number?

Or you "got " it online?


Either way, she answered and spoke to you a bit. Good. She's messing with HIM!!!

NEVER say "Alright, cool," if he tells you to do ANYTHING. I would have asked to speak to her, or called her RIGHT back. And spoken to her VERY nicely. And if HE answered, tell him: "Just a booty call, man. No big deal. I'll call back another time. Why are you answering her phone?"

Drives them NUTS.
 

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her bf needs to join this site to learn how to properly control his girlfriend so that she doesnt give #s out to random guys
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I also had a similar situation where I got a number of a girl off of a friend that I thought had broken up with her bf (they had a huge argument and were pretty much done for good)....

I proceed to call her and keeping in mind she had high IL for me just the night before (wanted me bad), instead she uses W O M A N ESE and blows me off blantly liying to my face telling me that I should "call her back."

Me having no come back (didn't see it coming). I hang up, her bf calls me with her phone and tells me to NEVER CALL THIS PHONE AGAIN *in a hard@$$ tone like he was bad* (must of made her gf wet)...

Few months down the road I here they're finally done offically and her bf calls me up trying to be all "COOL" again and her gf is trying to get with me again...yeah...:rolleyes:

If I were to do it again in this situation, I would've tried to have a proper come-back as I kinda got $h!t tested, but not sure what I wouldve said...
 

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lol thats pretty funny man. I wouldnt call anymore she tried to play you guys.
 

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Why bother pullin girls from myspace in the first place? i understand if your using this purely as practice but you dont find it easier just to go up to girls in clubs, malls, ect and gettin numbers that way?
 

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If he was being cool about it, I wouldn't have really cared. I think what you did was fine.
 

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Aliasguy gave the best answer but I probably wouldn't of been able to help myself in that situation and I would of simply told the guy nobody tells me what to do and then hung up.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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What is her relationship status on her profile? If you ever talk to a bf, point out that his girl is giving out her number to guys she meets online.
 

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LOL alias, give a little more credit to the OP, shouldnt even ask him whether he copied the number from myspace, wow. People on this site know better than that i assume.

Secondly homes, im surprised you are 43, after i saw what you advised to him. Because you have lived to 43 years of age and say garbage like that.
 

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Prodigy746 said:
lol thats pretty funny man. I wouldnt call anymore she tried to play you guys.
Damn right! This sh*t happened to me! I have a story.

It's even stranger that I gave her my # after she asked me, then she said she wanted to f**k. It was shown in one of her pics! That's how she said she wanted me when we reach the bedroom! I had something to look forward to...I spoke too soon as usual.

When I called the number back she called me from, it was a (Look out) WRONG NUMBER!!!


Sh*t happens.
 

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DJVladdy said:
LOL alias, give a little more credit to the OP, shouldnt even ask him whether he copied the number from myspace, wow. People on this site know better than that i assume.

Secondly homes, im surprised you are 43, after i saw what you advised to him. Because you have lived to 43 years of age and say garbage like that.

What? It was unclear if she MEANT him to have the number, or he lifted it from online. (Not a crime, but a different dynamic.)

And my advice has nothing to do with my age. Why is it "garbage"? It's based on what I've seen in the past. Why would saying what I advised be "garbage"?
 

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Alias, because it's bad advice man.
You never know who that guy is. You are saying to him that his woman is your booty call.
See, the places where I lived, considering the personalities of people that I knew - this could get you a bullet in the head. That's the reason I was surprised that you at your age don't understand something like this.

Bytches ain't **** that's a given... but when you obviously disrespect a man like that, basically spitting in his face, me personally - I would not leave it without revenge, but that's just me.

But perhaps you lived in different environments, so to you it's acceptable, I can understand that.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DJVladdy said:
Alias, because it's bad advice man.
You never know who that guy is. You are saying to him that his woman is your booty call.
See, the places where I lived, considering the personalities of people that I knew - this could get you a bullet in the head. That's the reason I was surprised that you at your age don't understand something like this.

Bytches ain't **** that's a given... but when you obviously disrespect a man like that, basically spitting in his face, me personally - I would not leave it without revenge, but that's just me.

But perhaps you lived in different environments, so to you it's acceptable, I can understand that.

Ok, man. If that's where you're at, I accept, and understand. Must be a tough place to live. Sorry.


Over here in the REAL world, a guy is NOT gonna shoot you in the head. He is more likely to give the woman a hard time or be a total AFC, and end up pushing her farther away. And I swoop in to pick up the pieces.

I've had it done to me, and I've done it. No one got shot.

Where the h*ll do you LIVE, dude? Detroit? D.C.?


BTW, man , IT IS IMPOSSIBLE to "disrespect" a man you have never met.
 

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I've had a good life overall because I had both parents and a good family... But I saw what was going on around me. First I lived in St. Petersburg, Russia, alot of crime there. Worcester, MA - not that its very "tough" just a dump for city full of crazy, hot-headed immigrants (like yours truly lol).

And I got a little bit carried away with the getting shot thing. Although there WAS a guy on my football team that ****ed someone's girl+ dissed that boyfriend by flipping him off or threw a small rock at his car - something very foolish... he got killed that night at 20 years of age. There's still a huge dark spot on the brick wall and on the ground because of the blood. Was not even a bad person, just a "bad boy".

Many other times, stupid $hit can get you jumped or stabbed, whatever. Im not even talking about hoes.

Now, this leads to my problem as well and maybe some older guys can help me. I tend to have a big ego and pride, which at the slightest threat turns me into an animal basically. Of course I'm improving myself, with the help of this site as well as experience... and I'm getting better. But it's not all gone. Even my mother tells me, I have to be more 'lenient' towards human beings. You know how you have pushovers - well imagine the exact inverse of that. Taken to the extreme - that's me. If you, or anyone who reads this, ever listened to the way Mike Tyson reflects on his life - i watched a documentary, and it was so creepy because I felt like I was looking in the mirror, not the TV screen.

I got this attitude: i wanna love everybody, but first you gotta love me too.
 

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DJVladdy said:
I've had a good life overall because I had both parents and a good family... But I saw what was going on around me. First I lived in St. Petersburg, Russia, alot of crime there. Worcester, MA - not that its very "tough" just a dump for city full of crazy, hot-headed immigrants (like yours truly lol).

And I got a little bit carried away with the getting shot thing. Although there WAS a guy on my football team that ****ed someone's girl+ dissed that boyfriend by flipping him off or threw a small rock at his car - something very foolish... he got killed that night at 20 years of age. There's still a huge dark spot on the brick wall and on the ground because of the blood. Was not even a bad person, just a "bad boy".

Many other times, stupid $hit can get you jumped or stabbed, whatever. Im not even talking about hoes.

Now, this leads to my problem as well and maybe some older guys can help me. I tend to have a big ego and pride, which at the slightest threat turns me into an animal basically. Of course I'm improving myself, with the help of this site as well as experience... and I'm getting better. But it's not all gone. Even my mother tells me, I have to be more 'lenient' towards human beings. You know how you have pushovers - well imagine the exact inverse of that. Taken to the extreme - that's me. If you, or anyone who reads this, ever listened to the way Mike Tyson reflects on his life - i watched a documentary, and it was so creepy because I felt like I was looking in the mirror, not the TV screen.

I got this attitude: i wanna love everybody, but first you gotta love me too.
привет человек. I was born in Belarus myself, when did you move?

I know what you mean about the attitude, I went through a phase like that for a few years too, still in the process of getting a proper grip on things. It has the same root as when people are push overs - FEAR. What helps to get over it is real confidence (without ego) and more importantly empathy. When you realise that everyone around is sh!t scared of life and usually to a higher degree than us then it becomes a lot easier to deal with. Another thing that was seriously messing me up with this was coffee. Don't underestimate this drug, even if its just a cup or two a day it can make you irritable. Since I cut it out I've been a lot more calm and less aggressive. Meditation is good for it too.


aliasguy, the US is not the real world. A comparativly small percentage of people are lucky enough to live in such a civilized society. Most places on earth are more brutal than the west.
 

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i came when i was 12, but i lived and hung out around more immigrants than American's for a few more years. Until I moved to "subrubia" as much as I hate this word. I feel what you are saying, like i used to have this subconscious feeling that everyone was watching me/ after me/ wants to take advantage of me, which made me defensive, mean, and unapproachable. Now that I'm starting to realize that most people are scared and insecure in their own lives, im becoming more human, more of a real man.
 

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I would have been like;

him: bla bla don't call bla bla
me; it's all good man...it's cool, it's cool.....hey listen, did she ever take it up the azz when she was with you??? no???
him: bla bla bla mad mad bla bla bla
me: ohhh sorry dude, i din't mean to upset you, i appologize....hey listen; did she ever let you c*m on her face????
him; pissed/threts bla bla bla
me: wowww dude relax....you sound like you have a smal penis syndrom.
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in another words....i would have had sh!t load of fun with him.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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