"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Call or text?

thedoc

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During lunch, me and a bunch of people are sitting in the school library during lunch talking like we usually do. For some background, I go to a very AFC school. 300 people per grade, with competition from over 10,000 people. It's also considered a "technical school." This means there are mostly guys, and nearly no extraordinarily looking girls.

Anyway, we were talking about the recent SAT's and this one kid starts bragging about how he number closed a girl right before the test. He also claims to know "the game," whatever that means.

I asked him if he called her, and he said no he texted, and shows me the cheesiest text in the world that went something like "It was great meeting you.......... with all that stress from the SAT's seeing a cute girl was nice."

I don't know what "game" he knows. :p There are a few girls around so I try as hard as I can not to laugh and embarrass him and move on.

I casually ask, "why did you text, and not just wait a day or 2 and call?" This turns into a huge heated argument with everyone in the library against me and one girl who takes my side.

Now here are my points to the argument:
1. If you call, it shows that you have balls because texting is a lot easier for most people.
2. If you first text, when (and if) you actually meet up, it's going to be very awkward because both you and your date are used to text talk. (this came from personal experience :whistle: )
3. If you call, you can instantly set up a date and skip all the bs.

The only real argument against me was that I'm stuck in the past with calling =/


So, what do you guys think is better, to call or to text?
Btw, I number closed a girl arguing against me at the end of the period :cool:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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base2ball2boy2

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Call. Period. End of story.

What do you mean, "stuck in the past with calling?" Are you trying to say that the guy cannot successfully talk to a girl he has interest in on the phone?
 

eaglez1177

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Imo, its all about preference. Phone calls can sometimes turn out VERY awkward, which is why I personally like to start texting mostly, and maybe then give her a call every now and then.
 

jeffthechef

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Call only. No texts.

Calls only for setting outings. NOTHING ELSE. Unless it's actually worth talking about. For example, a recent death, disease, etc. Something big.

Guys get caught up with texting/calling/IM-ing a lot. They think the girl's interested and having fun. Hell, she probably is. But then, she'll begin to know too much, too fast. You DO lose your Mystery. She does realize you have too much time for her. ETC.

I really don't see why some guys have trouble not texting/calling. It's easier than you think. Your time should be spent on school and your passions. Then, the time you allot to her should be spent in person, not through technology. Of course, most guys have way too much time. Thus, they call/text AND meet a lot. Making things go by way too fast.

All bad, unless you want a quick ****. Then go ahead.
 

Analyzeit

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Phone calls are actually better, they grow confidence in talking to each other which is really great lol.

But fact is calling can come off weird...

Look at it this way, ask yourself some questions.

What does every one else in your area do?
Are you gonna end up being nervous and being bad?
Or the final one did she give you her cellphone number or home phone, fact is girls our/your age don't give you there cellphone number to ring, it costs a lot for a start.

Just txt, but try anything to get on the phone to em
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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