"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Call her?

pua1989

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Sup guys, I'll try and keep it brief. Met this chick at a party, got her number (which doesn't really mean anything to me, high school chicks give out their numbers all the time), laid some mack down. today she texted me outta the blue (twice).

My main concern is that i am in her friends zone; she has initiated two texting conversations with "hey there best friend" and "how are you doing my friend" when initiating texting with me, and after 30 minutes or so of attempting to get across the point that i may be interest with some c+f (all texting), i got tired of texting and told her id call her later, and she said sounds good and shed talk to me later.

am i in her friends zone?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Michele l'Arcangelo

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dont bother calling her to chit-chat. call her if you need something (hangout, favor, ...bootycall) and make it quick.

don't make it harder than it is. don't over-analyze.
 

pua1989

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thanks, i decided i didnt need to call her. shes probably gonna come up to me tomorrow at school, or if she doesnt, should i go talk to her or bother texting her or anything, or just call her up on friday like i planned, and askingto hang out. i want to keep things progressing.
 

muzicfreak2k3

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i had this exact problem a few weeks ago... and now im in the "friend zone" =0 try not to talk to her tooo much over the phone or AIM... maybe once or twice for comfort, and then arrange a date to meet... cuz u dontwanan end up in my situation lol... the girl was going on and on and onnn about this guy she was with yada yada yada... ughhh its not worth it haha lol
 

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just call her and say, "hey, we're not friends unless i really get to know you" "how about dinner, saturday, around 8:00" if she gives you bull**** about i don't know, end the convo with "i need to know by tonight" so that you can make other plans for saturday night. you do have other plans right?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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pua1989

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of coursei have other plans, in fact id rather her just come along with me instead of doing something totally different haha
 

pua1989

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well didnt talkto her today and she texted me outta the blue again. shes sort of timid when it comes to kino, i see her reach out to touch me and then sometimes pull back. anyway will update when i hang out with her this weekend if anyone has any tips feel free.
 
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