Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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call her,when she wants you to call?+sh!t test

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hello folks,

i met one girl at myspace,and i have been chatting around with her, for a while. she seems pretty interested and is keen on meeting me.she gave me her number,but i didn't ask for it. and she is somehow "begging" me to call her.

though she used a sh!t test

i think this one is new:

she wrote,that she would like to give me her number,so i can call and make up a date.but in her message was no number.

i told her,that she forgot to actually give me her number,she just mentioned it

then she said "i was just testing you,if you really want my number"

she ended her mail with "i hope to get a call today evening"

should i call her today,or not?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Mr.Speed said:
hello folks,

i met one girl at myspace,and i have been chatting around with her, for a while. she seems pretty interested and is keen on meeting me.she gave me her number,but i didn't ask for it. and she is somehow "begging" me to call her.

though she used a sh!t test

i think this one is new:

she wrote,that she would like to give me her number,so i can call and make up a date.but in her message was no number.

i told her,that she forgot to actually give me her number,she just mentioned it

then she said "i was just testing you,if you really want my number"

she ended her mail with "i hope to get a call today evening"

should i call her today,or not?
****ing hell, what's with all the over analysing today? Call her late this evening. In fact, I dunno. Wait for a more experienced Don Juan. But I'm sure he'll also tell you you're over analysing.
 

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then she said "i was just testing you,if you really want my number"
she ended her mail with "i hope to get a call today evening"
Why did she mention that?

I'm in no way an experienced DJ, but it seems that this girl is playing games on you.
I wouldn't call her today. Maybe in 3 days; at least it will make her wonder, which is good.
 

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Personally, I like the girls that lay back and let me do the work. I hate it when girls throw themselves at me. I could be so hot for a woman, but the instant she throws herself at me, I lose all interest. I can't even get back those awesome thoughts and feeling I had for her.

You should be able to take this very slow. She wants you to rush it, but the slower you take the more she'll be into you. You should control the frame and call her when you want. When you call at any other time than when she wants you to, don't apologize and don't explain yourself. Just do it your way and it will keep her interest up.
 
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Boo-ya! Mavrick beat me to it, call her when you WANT to call her, and don't apologize because you don't want to seem "intruding" if you call her at a time she doesn't suggest.

Even call her at 2:00AM if you want, I've done it before. She complained but I told her ass to get up and do cartwheels so she can get some energy back in her to talk ;]
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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she appears to be very needy, I have never seen AFC women before :D, although she is pretty good looking.

what shall i say,if she pins me down on not calling her right away? in this case,I have to make an excuse.
 

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Mr.Speed said:
she appears to be very needy, I have never seen AFC women before :D, although she is pretty good looking.

what shall i say,if she pins me down on not calling her right away? in this case,I have to make an excuse.
NO EXCUSES!!! u dont need to explain urself.. lol but if u must make up an excuse, make it a stupid one.. for example:

HER : OMG i told u to call me last night!!! why didnt you call!!!

YOU: I had to brush my dogs teeth :)

she noes that ur just messing around and she'll prob stop bothering you about it..

If she countinues to hassle you about it, let her noe if she keeps bringing it up that your gonna hang up the phone.. the key thing here is FRAME CHANGE

good luck bro
 

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Call her on the day she wents you to and set up a date for another day.
 

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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
Call her on the day she wents you to and set up a date for another day.
thats what i'm saying, this is probably the best time for her to talk. Maybe she's at work during the day. Just call her in the evening like she says. Stop thinking about all this testing bs stuff and just focus on the overall goal here.
 

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She could have been saying "she was testing you" in a joking way, just because she felt stupid that she left out the number and that was the only way she could explain why she didn't send it the first time without embarassing herself.

Just call her around the time she said to call her, if she doesn't answer, then wait 2 or 3 days with no contact, and call her again. If she doens't answer then, then you delete her number and its over with.

Don't overanalyze these things too much, otherwise it will just drive you crazy with every girl you meet. The main thing are that you don't seem needy(dont call her immediately right after you get her number unless she says too). Plus don't keep calling or leaving voicemails if you are getting no response.
 

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Mr.Speed said:
hello folks,

i met one girl at myspace,and i have been chatting around with her, for a while. she seems pretty interested and is keen on meeting me.she gave me her number,but i didn't ask for it. and she is somehow "begging" me to call her.


she wrote,that she would like to give me her number,so i can call and make up a date.but in her message was no number.

i told her,that she forgot to actually give me her number,she just mentioned it

then she said "i was just testing you,if you really want my number"

she ended her mail with "i hope to get a call today evening"

should i call her today,or not?
That doesn't like a test, sounds like she wants to see in you are really interested. When she didn't include her number, she thought you may come back with "Did you see the basketball game yesterday?" and not care. Now she knows you are paying attention, she feels better.

I would call. Life's too short.

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A seven nation army couldn't hold me back.
 

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Why don't you think this way: I am the prize, so when would I call her? Yeah, I'd call her whenever I like.
 

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I call when I like, I ignore their calls when I don't want to talk. Sometimes they'll call 2-3 times / day, e-mail me, text me, message message nonstop... I still won't call until I want to speak to them.
 

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Call the girl whenever you want. Call if today and if she does not pick up, dont go about telling her the following day how she told you to call her but she never picked up when you did called her. Or telling her how the number she have you was a wrong one. Just delete the number and her online contact if it is a wrong number. Wait 3-4 days and call again if she does not pick up them delete her info.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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neither of those are sht tests

first one she's trying to make sure you actually like her

second one she's just trying to move the interaction along
 

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call her when you feel like, but at least not for a day (though i'd say it woudln't matter and you're good). don't give her what she wants and dictate how you want things to go, that way you'll run less risk of b.s.
 

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Don't be a SOCIAL ROBOT ... Do what you want to DO, but I don't think that every thing that she asks you to do is a sh!t test.
 

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ok, so i did not call her yesterday. today she seemed pretty imaptient. she wrote this in her message:

I would have really been happy to hear from you yesterday.Have I mentioned,that I am a pretty impatient person? I don't know if i have already mentioned it,but I don't like writing,it is not personal and I think you are a nice guy, not just in writing!!!


I think I call her today, its not nice to fool around with her any longer
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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