"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Call-Back VM Strategy

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This strategy is specifically for use when a girl will not pick up the phone and you're required to leave a voice mail ("VM"). I've used this for numbers I've collected in the last couple of weeks with about a 50% success ratio, which is higher than the 25% I usually get when I leave a VM. Success being defined here as when the girl calls me back after I leave a VM.

If she doesn't pick up and the call goes to VM I follow the following general structure:

1. Greeting ("Hi _name_. This is Szof.")
2. Anchor ("I was around _the bar/club_ today...")
3. Excuse for calling ("...and I remembered I hadn't yet talked to you.")
4. Submerged Command ("Anyways, let's keep this connection alive. Let me give you my number. 303-xxx-xxxx...")
5. Close ("...Looking forward to chatting with you. Take it easy.")

Additional tips: talk slowly, keeps "umms" to a minimum, and have a "I don't really care if you call but I know you will" air about you.

Regarding call timing strategy:

- If she indicates a high Interest Level ("IL"), then I make the first call 2-3 days after meeting and a second call 2-3 days after that. On the second call, I leave a VM.

- If she has a moderate IL, I call 4-5 days after the day I meet her and leave a VM if she doesn't pick up.

Let me know how this model works for you guys. I was looking for something like this here and elsewhere on PUA sites, but most say don't leave a VM. I disagree, being as calling repeatedly, especially from a blocked number raises a woman's anti-stalker defenses.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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