"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Call-Back VM Strategy

szof

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This strategy is specifically for use when a girl will not pick up the phone and you're required to leave a voice mail ("VM"). I've used this for numbers I've collected in the last couple of weeks with about a 50% success ratio, which is higher than the 25% I usually get when I leave a VM. Success being defined here as when the girl calls me back after I leave a VM.

If she doesn't pick up and the call goes to VM I follow the following general structure:

1. Greeting ("Hi _name_. This is Szof.")
2. Anchor ("I was around _the bar/club_ today...")
3. Excuse for calling ("...and I remembered I hadn't yet talked to you.")
4. Submerged Command ("Anyways, let's keep this connection alive. Let me give you my number. 303-xxx-xxxx...")
5. Close ("...Looking forward to chatting with you. Take it easy.")

Additional tips: talk slowly, keeps "umms" to a minimum, and have a "I don't really care if you call but I know you will" air about you.

Regarding call timing strategy:

- If she indicates a high Interest Level ("IL"), then I make the first call 2-3 days after meeting and a second call 2-3 days after that. On the second call, I leave a VM.

- If she has a moderate IL, I call 4-5 days after the day I meet her and leave a VM if she doesn't pick up.

Let me know how this model works for you guys. I was looking for something like this here and elsewhere on PUA sites, but most say don't leave a VM. I disagree, being as calling repeatedly, especially from a blocked number raises a woman's anti-stalker defenses.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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