"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Calculation.

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Maybe it's just me, but what are your thoughts on calculating your DJing? Naturally, I don't mean sitting at home in front of your mirror and rehearsing a speech you'll give to your targets, but I have a tendency of planning and setting up situations. Example:

-There's a girl I know in debate. I know from an earlier conversation that she loves ice cream. I also know there's a new ice cream machine (you know, ice cream sandwiches, those strawberry shortcake sticks, etc.). So, I buy ice cream, making sure that it's generic, since she may not like a certain flavor. I walk into the debate room, making sure to eat it as ostentatiously as possible. Sure enough, she notices and asks where I got it, since the cafeteria is closed. I say there's a new machine up. She says, "really, where?" I volunteer to lead her to it, and start a convo while we walk to the machine.

This is a true story. I've done things like this since I've started liking girls (5 years old? lol), but I always have the nagging thought that it's not only manipulative, but pretty risky. After all, you may set something up, and it doesn't work, when you could have easily walked up to them and started a convo that way.

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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who doesn't do that? i read on a girls myspace that she loves sushi[after she messaged me, hottass soph]...so when i said we hsould chill, and said "i'lll tak eu to burke fortune house, we can get sushi n ****. i fvckin lvoe sushi."lol
 

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Start scanning satellite photos for great areas nearby good action date places where you can walk to and start making out.:rolleyes:

No seriously, I guess planning things does help. It not manipulative, its just getting to know a girl then doing something that you know she likes, or taking her a place that you know she would like based on what shes said or whatever.
 

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It's not manipulative at all my friend. All you're doing is trying to make her feel attracted to you.
 

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Originally posted by DJ4Real
It's not manipulative at all my friend. All you're doing is trying to make her feel attracted to you.
lol because making her feel attracted isn't manipulation at all
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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